How to let go of a relationship when you still love them
It’s tough to leave someone you care about, but sometimes ending a relationship is for the best.
If you want to end a relationship when you still love the other person, there are some key steps you should follow.
It won’t be easy, but there’s light at the end of that tunnel!
Let’s get started:
1) Start by being honest with yourself
The first step to getting over someone is being honest with yourself.
If you are still in love with someone who doesn’t want to be with you, it’s important to face the fact that there’s no future for you two.
If you’re in love with someone who wants different things from life than you do – maybe they want a family and you want to travel the world or focus on your career – then you need to accept the fact that things aren’t going to work out in the long run.
You see, it’s not just about getting over your feelings for them; it’s about accepting your circumstances and not holding onto false hope.
2) Acknowledge the breakup is for the best
You might be feeling sad and wishing you could have done things differently, but there’s a good chance your relationship would have ended anyway.
Think about it: You just weren’t compatible or didn’t want the same things in life.
The bottom line is that if your relationship ended for a specific reason that you can’t seem to move past, it’s important to acknowledge the breakup was for the best.
3) See what a relationship coach has to say
While this article aims to show you how to let go of a relationship when you still love them, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences…
Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations, like getting over someone you’re still in love with. They’re a very popular resource for people facing this sort of challenge.
How do I know?
Well, I reached out to them a few months ago when I was going through a painful breakup. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship with my ex and how to get past it and start dating again.
I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.
4) Talk it out
If you and your ex are open to it, you might be able to talk the breakup out.
The truth is that talking to the person who broke up with you or vice versa can help you gain a better understanding of what happened.
You might find you and your ex actually agree on why things didn’t work out, or you might discover new insights and ways to move forward.
If your ex isn’t open to talking, you need to let it go. You can’t force someone to talk to you, and you can’t rely on them to give you closure.
5) Give yourself time to grieve
If you want to let go of a relationship when you still love the person, you need to give yourself time to grieve.
You see, when you break up with someone or they break up with you, it’s not just the romantic relationship that ends. You’re also losing a friend, a support system, a source of comfort and safety.
You are losing a person who played a huge part in your life — and it is going to hurt. It’s normal to feel sad and even depressed at first.
Give yourself time to fall apart and let go of the relationship. You can’t rush the grieving process. It will take as long as it’s going to take.
Give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling.
If you’re sad, cry. If you’re angry, yell. If you’re anxious, find a way to calm your nerves. You need to get all of these feelings out in order to really move on from someone.
6) Take a break from your ex
It’s great if you want to remain friends with your ex, but you first need to get over them.
Stop all contact with them for a couple of weeks or even months, however long it takes for you to get over them.
This means you can’t see them, call them or text them. Take a break from your ex completely. If you find it impossible to do – then delete their number, block them on social media and don’t try to contact them.
In my experience, the only way you can get over someone is if you stop thinking about them every single day. If you keep going through their social media, looking at their pictures, and reading their posts, it will be so hard to get over them.
It might seem like a bit of an extreme thing to do, but it might be necessary if you want to get over them fast. You can always unblock them and send them a message in a few months if you want. But don’t do it before you get over them!
7) Write a goodbye letter
If you feel like you need closure or want to pour out your feelings for your ex, you can write a goodbye letter.
You might want your letter to be to your ex or yourself. Whatever the purpose, the goodbye letter is a powerful way to get out everything you’ve been feeling.
You can write down everything you wish you could say to your ex or just get out everything you’ve been feeling in your heart. You might need to write a few letters before you feel satisfied with what you put down.
8) Work on the relationship you have with yourself
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9) Talk about your feelings
One of the first things on how to get over someone is to put your feelings into words. You can do this with a friend you trust, a therapist, or even in a journal.
Acknowledge the fact that you are in pain, that you miss them, and that you are having a hard time moving past the breakup.
Once you get your feelings out in the open, it will be easier to process them. This will also help you to not feel like you need to hide your feelings from others.
You don’t have to hide how much it hurts or feel like you need to put on a brave face. It’s normal to feel all of these things when you’re going through a breakup.
10) Reach out to your support network
When you’re trying to get over someone, the best thing you can do is talk about it. Reach out to the people in your support network and tell them what’s going on.
Let me explain:
Reaching out isn’t only good for getting over someone, it’s also good for your mental health in general.
Having a support network of people who understand what you’re going through can help to alleviate some of the pain and pressure you’re feeling. You might even get new insight into what happened and what you could have done differently.
No matter what your situation, there is someone out there who has experienced something similar. Talking about your feelings with people who understand and care can help ease the pain and speed up the process of getting over someone.
11) Write in a journal
Journaling is one of the best ways to let go of a relationship.
Journaling allows you to process your emotions without any distractions. You can pour your heart and soul into the journal, getting everything out.
Trust me, it will help you move on from the breakup much quicker. It will also help you to stay focused on the present. Many people who journal find it easier to move past a relationship when they write about it.
It’s a great way to get over someone because it doesn’t require another person. You can journal in your house, alone, whenever you want. All you need is a pen and paper.
12) Go on a rebound date or two
The only way to really get over a relationship is to fall in love with someone new.
So, go out with people who aren’t your ex. It might seem like a horrible idea right now — but you won’t know until you give it a shot.
It will get your mind off the person you’re trying to get over and give you a new perspective on dating. Plus, it’s a great way to get out of the house and have some fun.
You need to find a new person who can take the place of your ex in your heart. It might take a while, so don’t give up.
13) Take care of your body
When you’re going through a breakup, it’s easy to neglect your body and lose sight of self-care.
You might be eating unhealthy foods, not exercising, and spending hours alone. While this might seem like a good way to get over someone, it’s actually not.
You need to take care of your mind and body. Your body is the vessel for your mind. If you don’t take care of it, you’re not going to be able to think properly or get over your ex.
Exercise regularly, eat healthy foods, spend time outside, and don’t spend too much time alone. Keep your mind and body active so you can get past the breakup and move on to better things.
14) Do yoga and meditate
If you need some time to yourself to reflect, yoga and meditation are great activities to try.
Not only are yoga and meditation great ways to relax and unwind after a breakup, but they’re also great ways to learn to love yourself.
If you feel like you need to be better at loving yourself, try setting a daily reminder to do something that will help you love yourself more. You can set a reminder on your phone or create a note on your computer to help you keep this goal in mind.
15) Take up a new hobby
One of the best ways to get over someone is to get excited by new things.
Not only will you have something new to focus on, but you’ll have an outlet for your emotions. You’ll be able to channel your feelings into something productive and creative.
You might want to start by reading about topics that interest you or watching documentaries about subjects you love. If you want to dive into something new, try taking a class or investing in a hobby you’ve always wanted to try.
16) Spend time with friends and family
While it’s good to take up a new hobby and spend time on yourself, you also need to spend time with loved ones who support you.
Your friends and family are there for you when you need them most, and you need to be there for them, too.
Believe me, you need to surround yourself with positive energy. Spending time with friends and family will help you get over your ex by distracting you with positive thoughts and emotions.
17) Take a trip
Finally, travel is one of the best ways to get over someone.
It will help you to escape the pain of a breakup and focus on something new, different, and exciting. It will also help you to meet new people and make some amazing memories. This can help you move past your ex and open your eyes to new possibilities.
You don’t have to stay stuck in the same place, doing the same things. You can do something different and exciting that will give you a fresh perspective.
This can give you a new perspective on life and help you to focus on the present instead of the past.
I hope that you found these tips for letting go of a relationship when you’re still in love useful.
Now, I know you’re going through a hard time, but trust me, you’ll get through this and you’re not alone.
Just be patient and show yourself love and kindness. Before you know it, you’ll be over your ex and in love with someone new who’s better suited to you.