Do you regret breaking up with your partner?
At that time, you thought it was the right call, but now you’ve started second-guessing your decision to break up.
Did you make a mistake?
Here are 11 signs that will help you determine whether your breakup was a mistake
1) Your emotions are all over the place
When things ended with your ex-partner, you might have felt numb for a while. Maybe even wanting nothing more than to forget about them entirely.
But chances are now that feeling has faded away, and instead you’ve found yourself getting very emotional about them again.
You might be feeling regret and sadness, and you might even feel hopelessness. And that’s why you’re wondering whether you made a mistake.
Is it possible that you didn’t think things through properly, and that you were in a bad place when you broke up?
That could definitely be the case! In fact, feeling this way is a sign that you didn’t make the right decision.
When you make the right decision, your heart is at peace with how things are.
2) You’re still thinking about them a lot
If you were in a relationship for months, or even years, chances are that you’re still thinking about them a lot.
In fact, your ex is probably the main thing on your mind at the moment.
You might be wondering whether you should have stayed with them, or if your life would have been better if they’d been part of it.
You might even find yourself asking if they’re thinking about you, too. Or if they’ve moved on and found someone new?
Whatever the case may be, if you’re still thinking about them a lot, it could be a sign that you’ve made a mistake.
Feelings of regret might overwhelm you, and you might find yourself wanting to talk to them or send them a message.
3) You’re reflecting on past relationship mistakes
Soon after the breakup, you might…
… be wondering what you could have done differently, or whether your relationship would have lasted longer if you’d made different choices.
… ask yourself whether it’s possible to undo the damage that was done.
… think that maybe things would have been better if the breakup had never happened at all.
You see, all these thoughts are causing you to feel regret, and that’s why you’re wondering whether your breakup was a mistake.
What else?
Reflecting on what you might have done wrong in your relationship could indicate your desire to change your past decisions.
Thinking about past mistakes and wishing things had been different are indicators that highlight your doubts about breaking up.
4) A relationship coach can give you real clarity
So, how can you deal with your feelings of regret? Are they really telling you that your breakup was a mistake? Or are they part of any person’s natural reaction to the end of a relationship?
When I was really confused about where my relationship was going, I was put in touch with one of the coaches at Relationship Hero. They are specialized in all matters of love and were able to help me see my situation clearly.
Why do I think they can help you, too? Because they can guide you in the right direction when it comes to your ex and the decision to break up.
Not only did my coach impress me with his wisdom and communication skills, but he shared some amazing techniques to help me identify my mistakes and fix them.
If they could point me to practical solutions, I’m confident they could help you too!
5) Breaking up made you realize how much you love them
When you broke up, you realized how much you really loved them.
You loved how they made you feel, how they made your life better, and how they were the perfect partner for you.
But, sadly, you weren’t able to see that while you were together. Your mind was focused on the bad things, and you were unable to see how good they truly were.
And that’s why you’re wondering whether you made a mistake. Your newfound perspective on them made you realize how much you loved them.
In a way, you admit that you were blinded by some negative aspects that don’t seem as important now as they did before.
6) You ended things because someone pressured you into it
Here’s another sign your breakup was a mistake:
When you broke up, someone pressured you into it. Your ex didn’t really want to break up either, but someone made you feel like you had no choice.
A friend or family member convinced you that it was the right thing to do.
You thought that you were making a good decision, but when you broke up with them, your heart started to hurt.
You realized that this was the wrong decision and that they were the right person for you.
Now that they’re gone, your heart aches and you want to go back to them.
7) You broke up because you were scared
Commitment is a scary thing. So it’s understandable if you were scared to take things to the next level with your ex.
You weren’t sure if that was something that you could handle.
But now, with all the time that has passed, you realize how important your relationship was to you and how much it meant to you.
Looking back, you can’t help but wonder how things would’ve been. It’s almost as if you want to be able to make that commitment again.
Mistake or not, if you relate, then maybe you should give them another chance!
8) You make excuses to see/talk to them
Another sign your breakup was a mistake?
You constantly make excuses to see or talk to your ex.
You want to hear their voice, see their smile, and spend time with them again.
However, it’s hard to admit that you made a mistake. If only there was a way to make it right!
Actually, there is a way… what you need to do is to re-spark their romantic interest in you.
I learned about this from Brad Browning. Thousands of men and women followed his advice to get their exes back and they succeeded.
Would you like to make your ex want you back into their life again?
Watch this free video. In it, he’ll show you exactly what you can do to make your ex regret the breakup, too, and do everything in their power to get you back.
It doesn’t really matter what caused your breakup – or how much time has passed since you split ways – he’ll guide you step by step to bring them back into your life right away.
Here’s a link to his free video again. If you really want your ex back, this video will help you get started.
9) You constantly compare your ex to others
Do you constantly compare your ex to other people?
Fair warning: this is a sign you’re still caught up on them.
If you do, then you might notice that your ex is better than others. In turn, this could make you realize you made a mistake.
If you’re wondering whether you should have given them another chance and if you should have loved them more, take it as a sign.
Maybe your ex-partner was the right person for you and you should have let them stay.
What if he or she was the real deal? Don’t let these questions haunt you forever.
10) You smile when you think about them
One of the signs that you were in a relationship with the right person is that you smile when you think about them.
You can’t help but smile, because they made your life better.
You miss them, and you miss what they did to make your life better.
You wonder what they would do if they knew you were thinking about them.
Can you relate? If you can, it could mean that breaking up was a mistake. Simple as that!
11) You immediately regretted your decision
When you break up with someone, it can be a good feeling.
You’re no longer in the relationship, and that means you have more freedom.
But when reality strikes, you immediately regret your decision.
You start to wonder if you should have done it, or if you were just being too emotional.
That sounds a lot like regret to me.
But when you look back on it, would you have done it any differently?
If so, maybe breaking up was a mistake.
How do you know if your ex regrets breaking up?
What are the signs that they’re regretting it?
1) They try to stay in touch with you
If your ex is trying to stay in touch with you, it’s a good sign.
Unless they have a genuine desire to stay friends with you, keeping in touch is a sign that they’re regretting breaking up.
They may not be ready to get back together, but they want to keep an open line of communication in case their feelings for you change.
If you receive an out-of-the-blue text from your ex, don’t be alarmed. It’s likely that they’re just testing the waters, seeing if there’s still a connection between the two of you.
2) Your ex-partner stays in touch with your friends
Your ex may regret the breakup if they stay in touch with your friends.
So, if they’re still in touch with them – and you want your ex back – take it as great news!
Why? This shows that they don’t want to remove everything that reminds them of you from their life.
They want to keep you in their life, so they’re keeping an eye on your friends, too.
But, instead of constantly watching your ex’s moves, wouldn’t you prefer to take things into your own hands and get them back?
I mentioned Brad Browning earlier – he’s an expert when it comes to impulsive breakups, dealing with regrets, and so on.
His step-by-step suggestions are considered useful by thousands of men and women who have managed to fix the mistakes they made and get their ex-partners back.
If you’d like to do the same, check out his excellent free video here.
3) They apologize for hurting you
If your ex-partner regrets the breakup, they’ll make an effort to apologize for everything they did wrong.
They know that the breakup was a mistake, and that’s why they’re trying to make amends.
They want to show their remorse for hurting you, and that means that their feelings aren’t completely gone.
It’s a sign that they still care about you.
4) Your ex-partner is trying to make you jealous
Here’s how it works:
Your ex is trying to get you jealous. If they’re trying to make you jealous, it’s a sign that they’re regretting breaking up.
Otherwise, why would they go to the trouble of trying to get you jealous? They’re trying to get a reaction out of you, and that means they’re still interested.
Even if your ex’s method is not the best one, it’s still a sign that they’re not at peace with how things went down between you two.
5) Your ex shares signs of regret on social media
If your ex shares any signs of regret on social media, it’s safe to assume that they regret the breakup.
Let me explain:
They could share photos of you together, songs that remind them of you, or anything else that reminds them of your relationship.
If they’re still interested in you, they’ll share things that are somehow connected to you.
Why? Because they want you to know that they’re not completely over you.
They’re trying to get your attention, and they’re hoping that you’ll notice their attempts.
6) Your ex-partner is sending mixed signals
If your ex-partner sends mixed messages, it’s a sign that they might be confused about their feelings.
They might send you signals that they’re still interested in you, but they might also be sending you negative signals.
Basically, they don’t know what they want. If that’s the case, regret might be the cause.
Sooner or later, they’ll figure out what they want. Until then, it’s safe to assume that they regret the breakup, or at least how it happened.
7) Your breakup was impulsive
You might have met someone new and impulsively decided that you wanted to break up with your partner. Or, you might have gotten into a fight and decided to break up.
In any case, if there was no good reason for the breakup, it’s safe to assume that they regret the breakup.
The same goes for you.
8) They don’t date other people
Let me ask you this: does your ex-partner date other people?
If they don’t date other people, it’s safe to assume that they regret the breakup.
They might even send you suggestive messages or try to lure you back into their life.
Even if they don’t, the fact that they didn’t opt for a rebound relationship is something that you can hold on to.
Is it normal to feel regret after a breakup?
Numerous psychologists agree that it’s normal to feel regret after a breakup.
Why? Because it’s natural to have feelings of sadness, anger, or even jealousy after a breakup.
All these feelings are a normal reaction to the end of a relationship.
So, if you’re feeling regret after a breakup, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you were wrong to break up.
It means that you’re human and that it’s normal to feel this way.
However, if your feelings of regret are backed up by signs that your breakup was a mistake, then you should consider getting back together with your ex-partner.
What is dumpers remorse?
Dumper’s remorse is a feeling of regret that comes about when you break up with someone. It occurs after a breakup and lasts for a relatively short period of time.
However, it’s not one of those feelings that you can easily shake off.
You might feel bad about breaking up with your ex-partner and even wish that you could go back and change your decision.
While psychologists agree that it’s normal to feel some type of regret after a breakup, they disagree on why people experience this feeling.
Some psychologists believe that it’s the result of not being in control of your emotions after your relationship ends.
If you were able to make decisions about how you felt, then you wouldn’t have experienced dumpers remorse.
Others believe that dumpers remorse is the result of not being able to move on, and that is a sign of fear.
Although it may not sound like a healthy attitude, dumpers remorse is a natural reaction to the end of your relationship.
Bottom line
It’s normal to feel a little bit of regret after a breakup.
However, if you feel so bad that you can’t stand to be in your own skin, then it might be because your breakup was a mistake.
If that’s the case, then you should consider getting back together with your ex-partner.
You should do this for yourself and for the sake of your relationship.
