Little things are as devastating as loving someone who you can’t be with.
In order to not spend the rest of your life in misery, you gotta find a way to let go of this person.
But how do you do that?
That’s what I’m here to tell you! With these tips, you will be able to let go of someone you can’t be with and live your best life!
Make the firm decision to let go
The first thing you need to do in order to let go is making the decision to let go.
This decision has to be firm, unshakable, and unconditional.
Once you have made this decision, you will be able to move on and let go of this person, no matter how difficult it may seem.
There are many reasons why people are unable to let go of another person, and if you find yourself unable to let go of the person you can’t be with, it could be because you haven’t truly made the decision to let go.
You may be holding on because you are hoping things will change and you will be able to be with this person.
It’s important to let go of this hope and accept that this person is not meant to be in your life.
You see, as long as there is still a part of you holding on to the hope that maybe someday you get to be together, it will be incredibly hard to let go.
The thing is, once your subconscious knows for sure, that this is it we’re letting go, it will be a lot easier to follow through!
Delete their contact information and any other reminders of them
This is a big one.
If their contact info, pictures, memories, or anything else is still lingering around, it will make it harder for you to let go.
You gotta get rid of all things that remind you of this person, in order to be able to let go.
Once you truly let go, you can come back to these things and appreciate them again in the future.
It’s like if there’s something you really want, but you can’t have it right now. If you keep looking at it, you’ll end up obsessing over it and even worse, feeling like you can’t live without it.
When you get rid of these things, you will have the chance to distance yourself from the person and move on.
Let go of the person and their possessions, and you will be able to move on with your life.
This is often also referred to as cleansing.
You cleanse your space of their presence and their energy, which will make it easier to let go.
Now: you can choose to delete their contact info and throw their things away, or you can give all of that to a trusted friend who is not to give you access to any of it until you’ve moved on if that is too much for you.
With the latter, you have the chance to reminisce about your experiences with this person in the future.
Let yourself grieve
Grieving is a natural part of letting go of someone.
If you feel like you need to cry, go ahead and let it out.
If you feel like there’s something stuck in your chest, you need to let it go.
You see, sometimes we feel like we need to move on right away and get better, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
In fact, you need to let yourself grieve in order to actually release your emotions. Anything else is simply repressing them, which won’t help you to move on, believe me!
If you feel like you need to sit still and be alone and weep, that’s okay too.
The most important thing is to just let yourself feel. You may think you’re being silly or that you need to “be strong and move on,” but nobody needs those feelings bottled up.
Let yourself grieve and let the emotions flow out of your body and out of your life as much as you need to.
Remember: everything you let flow out of yourself can be freed!
Find a hobby you love
Another great way to let go of someone is to find a new hobby.
That way, you will have something new to focus your attention on, and you will have a new creative outlet that can help you let go of the past.
A great way to find a new hobby is to just look around at things you enjoy.
Choose something you are passionate about and something that can help you let go of the past.
Whatever hobby you choose, make sure it’s something you love and can fully immerse yourself in. If you don’t love what you’re doing, chances are you won’t be able to let go of the past.
This can also be a fun way to connect with more people, like joining a club or something like that!
And the best part?
In finding a new hobby you are also acquiring new skills, which will help with your confidence and falling in love with life!
This goes hand in hand with the next point:
Find your purpose
When it comes to experiencing peace from letting someone you love go, it could be that you’re not living your life aligned with a deeper sense of purpose.
The consequences of not finding your purpose in life include a general sense of frustration, listlessness, dissatisfaction, and a sense of not being connected with your inner self.
It’s difficult to let go of someone when you’re not feeling in sync.
I learned a new way to discover my purpose after watching Ideapod co-founder Justin Brown’s video on the hidden trap of improving yourself.
He explains that most people misunderstand how to find their purpose, using visualization and other self-help techniques.
However, visualization isn’t the best way to find your purpose. Instead, there’s a new way to do it which Justin Brown learned from spending time with a shaman in Brazil.
After watching the video, I discovered my purpose in life and it dissolved my feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction. This helped me to let go of a person I couldn’t be with.
You see, when you live your life according to your purpose, it will be much easier to focus on yourself and let other people go!
Find creative ways to express your feelings
Sometimes the best way to let go of the person you can’t be with is to write your feelings out.
You can use different forms of expression, like music, dance, or even painting.
Whatever creative form of expression you decide to use, go all out on it. Don’t hold back, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself either.
Just let the emotions flow and let the tears fall out of your eyes while you create.
Once you’ve let out your emotions, you can put them into your artwork. This can be a great way to let go of your feelings for someone.
All of these activities will help you express your feelings and emotions in a healthy way.
If you are only starting out to express yourself in a creative way, let me tell you the most important thing: it doesn’t have to be perfect!
This is not about creating something beautiful or perfect, it is about creating something meaningful!
As soon as you use your feelings to create something, you are transmuting them into something beautiful regardless of what it looks like!
Talk to friends or family about what you’re going through
Another great way to let go of someone is by talking to friends or family about what you’re going through.
If you have a particularly good friend, this friend may be able to help you get through this difficult time.
If you don’t have someone you feel comfortable talking to about this, you can always look for a therapist or visit a support group in your area.
Sometimes, talking about your feelings can help you let go. Not only will this help you let go, but it will also help your loved ones understand what you’re going through.
This can also be a great way to find support in this difficult time.
You see, your loved ones want to be there for you, but sometimes they don’t know how to approach you or if you even want any help!
In that case, it can be really good to talk to them about your feelings and what you are going through!
Take care of yourself on all levels
One of the most important things, when you are letting go of someone, is to take really good care of yourself.
If you neglect yourself while you’re healing, you will make your situation 10 times worse.
To let go, you need to take care of yourself on all levels.
This means eating right, getting enough sleep, and spending quality time with your friends and family.
But this also means doing things that make you happy and things that you love.
Find hobbies or activities you love, and spend time with people who truly care about you.
You will be better able to let go of someone if you are also taking care of yourself on all levels.
You will feel less anxiety, less stress, and less worry if you are taking care of yourself properly.
Start dating someone new when you are ready
After you let go of someone you can’t be with, you can start dating someone new.
Once you have truly let go of the other person, you will be ready to move on to someone new.
You will be ready to open yourself up to new connections and new relationships.
You can date casually, date seriously, or date whatever you want.
Dating someone new and having a fresh start can help you truly let go of someone and move on with your life.
You will feel less guilty about “moving on” if you have truly let go of the person you can’t be with.
You will feel less pain and be better able to move on to someone new if you have let go of the person you can’t be with completely.
However, a word of caution here: make sure that you have given yourself more than enough time to heal before moving on to someone new.
Otherwise, you will only repress your emotions with feelings for someone else, and that’s not healthy!
Give yourself at least a few months to process the end of your last relationship before moving on to someone new.
Explore new passions and distract yourself a bit
Another great way to let go of someone and distract yourself at the same time is by exploring new passions.
You can look into new hobbies, expand your knowledge or simply do something you have always wanted to do.
The more you focus on yourself and your passions, the less time you will spend thinking about the person you can’t be with.
You can also distract yourself a bit by exploring new passions and interests.
You can look into new hobbies, take classes or even travel. Whatever you do, make sure it’s something you truly love so you can let go of the past and move forward with your life.
And the best part? This will show you that you have so much beautiful stuff going on in your life that you don’t need this person in order to be happy!
Get your confidence back by getting a new hairstyle, clothes, or look
This one is quite simple, but it can be very effective.
If you have the opportunity to change your look, do it!
This could mean getting a new hairstyle, wearing different clothes, or trying out a new makeup look.
Changing your look can help you feel like a new person and that can give you lots of confidence!
However, don’t go for any drastic changes right after the breakup, give yourself some time to think things over so that you don’t regret anything further down the line!
But trust me, a new look can give you the confidence and endorphins you need to let go with ease!
It will get better
While time doesn’t heal all wounds (yes, we have to do our own work here), it does help tremendously when moving on from someone.
If things look hopeless right now, don’t give up hope!
Sooner rather than later it will feel a bit easier and day by day, things will get better!
