When a narcissist leaves you, it’s painful. They crush your heart, tear you apart and make you feel like nothing will ever be the same again.
But here’s the catch – they won’t feel bad about it!
Narcissists are masters of manipulation, game playing, and performance. They don’t get attached to others.
Getting them to regret letting you go is not easy because they are pretty confident about their own self-worth.
But there are ways to make them feel the void in their life from losing you so badly that they might even think about coming back to you.
This article will show you how to make a narcissist regret losing you. Keep reading and you’ll find out.
1) Go No-Contact
The simplest method how to make a narcissist regret losing you is to cut them out of your life and end all communication with them. Avoid them and give them no reason to contact you again.
Make it clear that they are no longer part of your life because you don’t want anything from them anymore. Don’t call or text them. If they do contact you, don’t respond to their messages, ignore their calls and texts or send them back with a block button.
Show your indifference and cut off all contacts with the narcissist.
Going zero contact signals to the narcissist that you are done with them, and that they’re not that important to you, and you have no interest in getting back with them in the future.
2) Give them the silent treatment
You can make a narcissist regret losing you by giving them the silent treatment.
This means that you should cut them off completely and refuse to respond to their messages even if they beg you and try to convince you that they have changed.
The narcissist will feel rejected and will regret losing you. Make them miss your love and companionship.
They will know they have lost something good when they can’t get you back.
3) Make your happiness a priority
It’s really important to be happy after the relationship with the narcissist. That’s your job. You have to find happiness again. If you don’t, then the narcissist will win.
They’ll have taken a piece of your soul and crushed it, but if you make your happiness a priority and work on loving yourself again, you can overcome this.
The narcissist is an expert at sucking the life out of you. They can make you doubt your own sanity while they use you up. Being happy again means that you have to think positive thoughts, surround yourself with positive people, and focus on your own needs.
This may feel impossible when your life feels like it’s falling apart, but it’s worth the work it takes to get there. You are worthy of love and happiness. Make it your mission to find it again.
4) Focus on your well-being and happiness
A narcissist will try to make you feel as if you are nothing without them, but this simply isn’t true. You were an amazing, powerful person before you met them, and you are an even more incredible person now.
Focus on your own well-being, and don’t let the narcissist’s false accusations and guilt trips bring you down.
After ending all contact with the narcissist, you need to focus on your own life. You need to invest your time and energy in yourself.
Get a hobby, join a club, get outside in nature, surround yourself with positive and supportive people, go out with loved ones, talk to your friends about how you’re doing, take care of your emotional well-being by investing time in your passions, hobbies and career, and do whatever you need to do to stay strong.
You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to be in a relationship with a partner who values you and wants the best for you.
The narcissists will regret losing you if they see that you are relatively happy without them and leading a good life after leaving them.
5) Be the best version of yourself
When a narcissist leaves you, it is time to reinvent yourself. Develop a new you, a stronger you, a more confident you.
Try to get rid of any negative thoughts like “I am not good enough”. This is usually a result of the abusive relationship. You can’t go back there. Go forward and make things better for yourself.
Work on a new identity outside the shadow of the narcissist and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
Once the narcissist sees how great you are and how much better off your life is without them, it will make them regret leaving you so soon.
6) Show them you’re better off without them and how much you’re thriving without them
You can make a narcissist regret losing you by showing them that you’re better off without them and how much better your life is when they’re not in it anymore.
When a narcissist leaves you, it’s important to let them know that you don’t need them in your life. Let them know that you’re doing better without them.
Show them how much you’re thriving without them and how the void in your life is being replaced with something great.
Be proud of the things that you’re doing and the life that you’re living. Let them know that you’re happy without them in your life, and that you’ve moved on to something better. Let them know that they’re not missed.
You can do this by moving on with your life. Focus on your hobbies, spend time with your loved ones, and find new friends.
Don’t spend all your time pining over the narcissist or trying to figure out how to get them back.
Show them that you are better off without them, and they will regret losing you.
7) Move on with your life and be truly happy
When you move on with your life, you prove the narcissist that you have really got over the relationship with them by showing your true own happiness.
This means the narcissist has lost control over your emotions and has no power or control over you anymore.
The best way to make them regret losing you is by moving on with your life and be truly happy.
Put yourself first and prioritize your happiness above all else. When they see you happier without them, they will regret losing you.
8) Look better than ever
The narcissist will regret losing you if they see you are more prosperous after leaving them.
If the narcissist is someone who is very charming and good looking, they might place strong emphasis on their partner’s attractive traits. By looking better than ever, you might trigger their regret for leaving you.
Be the best version of yourself. This includes looking your best and being your best self.
The more successful and thriving your life is, the more they will regret losing you.
This is because they use your success as a way to feel superior and special compared to others (to prop up their fragile ego).
If you’re now happy without them, it’s a slap in the face to their false sense of superiority and it will hurt their inflated ego.
By looking better and happier than ever before your transformation is sure to make the narcissist regret leaving you.
9) Act like you don’t care in the slightest
If they see you acting like you don’t care or are unaffected by the break up, they will regret losing you.
This is because narcissists need to feel that they have power over others and by you breaking up with them, they’ve lost their control over you.
The most devastating way to make a narcissist regret losing you is to show them how strong you are and how you can carry on living your best life without them.
By showing that it doesn’t affect you, it makes them feel powerless and insecure.
10) Post awesome pictures on your social media profile
It may sound difficult to imagine living your best life after being a victim to a narcissistic discard but this is a great way to show the narcissist that you are capable of being happy without them and are moving on with life.
Post on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter every day showing how happy you are doing things in your life away from the narcissist.
Narcissists will resent how great your life is when they see all the great things that are happening in your life.
It also attracts other people who want to be in a relationship with you because of your success, so it pushes the narcissist away from you faster.
11) Go out and make friends and have fun in your life
Have an active social life and make new friends and surround yourself with great friends.
Be happy by having fun in your life, make friends and go out with good people. This will make the narcissist feel that they no longer can have influence on you and you can survive without them.
Having better friends after breaking up with the narcissist will make them regret losing you because it shows that you have many new authentic friends to keep you company.
If you used to spend all your time with the narcissist, this will show them how much happier you can be with new friends.
12) Keep yourself busy with your hobbies and interests
After breaking up with the narcissist, it’s crucial to make time for yourself and to find things that make you happy.
When you have hobbies that keep you busy, it shows them how much happier you can be without them in your life.
An excellent way of keeping busy is by learning new skills, creating things and participating in activities that interest you. Not only will this make you happier than ever before but it will also give you an opportunity to meet new people and create new social circles.
Your attention used to be centered around the narcissist, and now is the time to redirect your energy and time to hobbies and interests that will enrich your life.
You do not need the narcissist to make you happy, so post pictures and status updates on your Facebook, Twitter or Instagram all about the things you are passionate about.
The narcissist bases his or her self-worth on the amount of things they can control and possess.
By focusing on your interests outside of the narcissist, it shows them that they can no longer control you and that they do not have power over you anymore.
13) Have a thriving social life
The narcissist is rarely at social events because they hate being around people they don’t have any control over (avoidance).
It also sends a signal that you’re happier without them and by your new friendships, than before.
Keep yourself busy with exciting new events and going out with people. If you used to spend all your time with the narcissist, this will show them how much happier you can be with a social life than before.
Your social life is now your own so that the narcissist doesn’t have any control over it.
14) Block the narcissist on all platforms
If the narcissist does contact you on social media, now it’s time to take this to the next level.
Now that the narcissist has reached out to you, you can use this opportunity to show the narcissist how strong and independent you are by not responding to any of their text messages or calls and let them get a glimpse into how much he or she is not important anymore to you.
Next, hit the block buttons to block the narcissist on all social media platforms. Be absolutely unattainable.
The moment they realize they can no longer reach you or contact you on social media, they will start to realize they have lost you and they are no longer important.
15) Learn to love yourself so that no one can ever treat you bad again
When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you tend to focus on them as a person and lose yourself in the process.
You might love someone so much that you give away all your needs and wants to prioritize theirs.
Your self-esteem suffers greatly when you focus on someone else so much that you don’t value yourself and can’t see what’s really important in your life.
If you really want to make a narcissist regret leaving you, it’s time to learn to love and value yourself again.
Remember your positive qualities and the amazing person you are. Take care of your appearance, dress well, look your best, become the best version of yourself, focus on your career and personal growth.
Spend quality time with your most loved ones, treat yourself to a long-awaited vacation and reconnect with your inner self.
When you look and feel your best, you will regain your confidence and self-esteem. Trust me, when a narcissist see you at their best, they will regret leaving you.
But more importantly, start to appreciate yourself and love yourself, so that no one can ever treat you badly again.
16) Spend more quality time with your support network
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can consume you and make you neglect other important relationships in your life.
Simply spending quality time with your loved ones and friends will take away your attention from the narcissist and give it to the people who genuinely care about you.
Leverage your support network of family and friends.
Surround yourself with positive people who will remind you of how amazing you are, who will support you when you need it, and who don’t want anything from you at all.
They can also help you feel secure in your decision to walk away from the narcissist.
Spending quality time with other people will help you realize things are not so bad and that there is still life after a narcissist.
When a narcissist sees you being loved and supported by awesome people, they will regret losing you.
17) Have the best career without the narcissist
If the narcissist makes you feel worthless and inferior, do not be afraid to show off your success after breaking up with them.
By having a thriving career (that you can be proud of) and getting promotions and good pay raises, this will make them regret leaving you because it shows that you’re so much better than the narcissist in your job and salary.
Being successful isn’t just a boost of confidence and egocentric pleasure, as it can be helpful when looking for a new partner. Studies have shown that most people want someone who is intelligent and has goals in life and is likely to be successful. It also shows the narcissist that you are so much better than them in your professional life and can be happier without them.
You don’t have to brag or rub it in their face, but it can be a good idea to subtly share your achievements with them so they will regret losing you.
18) Put yourself first, build up your self-esteem and be proud of who you are
Your self-esteem might be severely hurt when the narcissist devalues and discards you. By building up your self-esteem, you can come back stronger than before and this will make the narcissist regret losing you when they see your strengths and power.
Be proud of things you have achieved in your life that show that you are so much better than the narcissist and you no longer need them to make you happy.
You can build back your self-esteem by being proud of the amazing person you are and celebrating your achievements.
Let them know that you’re proud of the things that you’ve accomplished without them.
By being proud of your own achievements, it shows the narcissist that they don’t have power over you anymore because they haven’t been involved in helping those things happen in your life.
Show the narcissist that you’re happy with who you are and proud of the life that you’ve built without them.
19) Start dating other people better than them
The narcissist wants you to feel you’re not good enough or that no one else will want you, so he or she will emotionally abuse and discard you because then it puts him or her in a position of control.
That is why they need to be the only one who loves you—so they can have the power. The narcissist wants to feel special, loved and desirable.
When you possibly find a new partner who is better than the narcissist, it shows the narcissist that they weren’t quite the catch that they thought they were and there are better people out there than them.
The fact that they might not be that special and valued anymore can be unbearable to their ego.
The narcissist will hate this because they hate being replaced. When you start dating someone else, the narcissist will feel insecure and jealous.
Therefore, by dating other people, this shows them how great your life is without them and it makes them regret ever leaving you in the first place.
A narcissist doesn’t want to lose control over anyone that they consider “property” because they need complete control over everything in their life.
So if they think that you’re starting to date someone else, it’s an immediate sign that they’re losing control over your life and they will regret leaving you.
20) Let them see that other people find you desirable
If you want to make a narcissist regret losing you, let them see that other people find you desirable.
When a narcissist sees that you are a catch to others, they will realize how awesome you are and make them fear that they won’t be able to find someone quite like you.
Since narcissists are all about feeling special, loved, appreciated, needed and desired by others, if they see someone else appreciating or enjoying you more than them, then it makes them jealous because they don’t feel special anymore.
Don’t be afraid to tell a narcissist that you are happy with your new partner and that you want him or her out of your life for good.
It will show the narcissist how much they are wrong about how important they mean to you.
21) Make it clear that you are over this relationship and won’t be coming back, no matter what they do or say
Narcissists are manipulative, and they don’t always let go easily. They are likely to try and get you to come back to them.
They may try guilt trips or manipulation to try to get you to come back to them. Don’t fall for this.
Make it clear that you are over the relationship, that you don’t want them back, and that you won’t be coming back regardless of what they do or say.
Let them know that they made a choice, and that they have to live with the consequences. Hold your ground and don’t let them back into your life.
The best way to make them regret losing you is by being firm and let them know that they’re no longer in your life and that they don’t get to come back after they left.
22) Have a successful and happy life
The best way to make a narcissist regret losing you is to show them what they are missing out on.
Trust me, when you have found a new partner and are truly happy with them, the narcissist will regret leaving you.
The more successful and prosperous your life is, the stronger and happier you are surrounded by great people in your life, the more the narcissist will regret losing you.
To sum it up, the best way to make a narcissist regret leaving you is to find happiness within yourself and move on with your life without them.
Follow these tips and strategies, and you’ll be well on your way to making that happen.
The bottom line is that it’s not so much about making the narcissist regret leaving you, it’s about how committed you are to making your life better than before.
It is important that you focus on your own well-being and happiness first before anything else. Focus on yourself, heal your heart, put the past behind you and move on with your life.
When you really get to a happy place in your life, whether a narcissist ever regrets losing you does not really matter anymore, and is completely irrelevant to your happy life.