Are you currently seeing a guy but aren’t sure about his intentions?
It can be difficult to gauge whether a guy sees you long-term, but there are some clear signs he sees a future with you!
Let’s take a look at them:
1) He shares his goals with you
If he is sharing his goals with you, it is a good sign that he is becoming closer to you and wants to be more open about his life.
If he is keeping his life secret from you and not sharing his goals, then he likely isn’t planning to be with you for the long term.
You see, for a man, having a woman by his side who supports his goals and visions can be really important.
However, when they know that you won’t be in their future, they often don’t even bother to let you in on their plans.
When a guy talks to you about his goals, he doesn’t only show you trust by sharing that with you, but he also thinks that you might be a part of his future.
And as you’ve seen, a guy who sees a future with you is more likely to share more and be more open with you.
The best part?
When he shares his life goals, you immediately get the opportunity to see if you are on the same page about things and if your ideas for the future are compatible.
You’d be surprised how many couples break up because they realize that they couldn’t see their future together.
2) You’re his priority
If he is prioritizing you, then it is likely that he is seeing you as part of his future.
You see, guys are often focused on their careers or hobbies.
Unlike women, relationships are not always a number one priority for them.
Now, when a guy is making you his priority and prioritizing you, he is showing that he is thinking of you and wants to see you in his future.
Making you a priority can look a number of ways.
Some guys can’t prioritize you over work because they are simply extremely busy.
However, in those cases, you might notice that he makes it a point to check up on you on his lunch break or try to plan date nights ahead of time.
These little actions show that you are a priority for him and that he wants to be with you.
Simply put, if a guy is making you feel special, then it is likely he is thinking about your future with him.
When a guy makes you feel special, he is showing that he values your time and wants to spend more time with you.
For example, when he calls or texts you just to say hi or see how things are going, it shows that he values your time and wants to spend more of it with you.
And when a guy thinks of spending more time with his girl and making her feel special, then it shows that he sees her as part of his future.
In addition to making you feel special, when a guy makes plans for the future with you, it also shows that he has confidence in the relationship and believes in the potential growth between the two of you.
If he is not prioritizing you and making time for you, then this is a clear sign that he is not planning to be with you for the long term.
3) You bring out his inner hero
A huge sign that a guy sees you in his future is when you bring out his inner hero.
There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.
This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.
I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.
The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.
When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.
But how do you trigger this instinct in him?
The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.
If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.
I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.
Here’s a link to his unique video again.
4) He makes an effort to see you
If he is making an effort to see you, even if it is difficult for him (maybe he lives far away), then he likely sees you as part of his future.
You see, there is this saying that goes: “If he wanted to, he would”, and I’ve seen a lot of girls use it while showing what their man does for them.
And truly, when a man likes you and sees a future with you, there are virtually no limitations as to how far he would go to show you he is serious about you.
Now: when a guy sees you long-term, he will make an effort to see you as much as possible.
This could be when you live close to one another, but also when you are further apart.
This man is thinking of you as part of his future.
If he is not making an effort to see you, then he is likely not planning on seeing you in the future.
5) He introduces you to others as his girlfriend
If he introduces you to others as his girlfriend, then he is likely planning on keeping you around for the long term.
Now: this goes hand in hand with introducing you to his friends and family.
You see, usually, a guy will not introduce you to friends or family unless he really likes you, because he knows that they may not be ready to accept you.
But if he introduces you to them as his girlfriend, then he is likely serious about the relationship.
And if he is serious about the relationship, then it shows that he is thinking of you as part of his future.
If a guy likes you and believes in the potential growth between the two of you, then it shows that he wants to spend time with your family and friends.
Now, when a guy does not like your family or friends or has no interest in meeting them, then it shows that he does not see them as part of his future with you.
6) He expresses his feelings for you
If he is expressing his feelings for you, it is a good sign that he is planning to be with you for the long term.
Guys tend to be a bit more timid when it comes to expressing feelings and emotions, so when a guy is open about liking you and willing to be vulnerable, that says a lot about his feelings for you.
Now: once he does that, you probably already know how he feels about you because he will have told you.
If he is not expressing his feelings for you, then there is a chance that he is not interested in a long-term future with you.
However, some guys are just really bad at communicating their feelings and emotions, to be honest.
So, if a guy hasn’t opened up about his feelings for you, yet, and you are really curious, just ask!
I know, we are sometimes terrified of asking because we don’t want to scare a guy away, but let me tell you a secret:
The right guy, the one who doesn’t play games and likes you for who you are, will not be scared by your question.
7) He takes action
If he is taking action and making moves in the relationship, then it is a good sign that he is planning to be with you for the long term.
Taking action can look very different for every couple. Maybe he emptied a drawer for your stuff at his house, or perhaps he made a surprise stop by the store for you to pick something up.
Maybe he sends you flowers, or maybe he takes you out on a special date.
But the important thing is that he is taking action, and that says a lot about his intentions towards you.
You see, actions speak louder than words, and that saying has proven true again and again.
Guys can promise you the world but then they often won’t deliver.
So, if you are wondering about a guy’s intentions with you, don’t listen to his words, only watch his actions.
If he is not taking action and moving the relationship forward, then he likely does not see you in his future.
8) He’s making room for you in his life and schedule
If he is making room for you in his life and schedule, it is a good sign that he is planning to be with you for the long term.
You see, people can be really busy with work and friends and hobbies.
There is often no room for another person to come in. However, there can always be made more room.
So, it really only comes down to priorities at this point.
If you are a priority to him, he will make it a point to make room for you in his schedule.
If he is not making room for you in his life and schedule, then he likely doesn’t see you in his future.
This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to see you long-term.
And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.
All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.
Here’s a link to the free video again.
9) He is interested in your life
If he is interested in your life and how you spend your time outside of the relationship, it is a good sign that he sees you as part of his future.
When a man is not interested in you as a potential girlfriend, he probably won’t really care about your life, interests, and hobbies, as cruel as it sounds.
You see, a man wants to have a life with someone that he can share his interests with.
If he is not interested in you as a potential girlfriend, then it is unlikely that he will be interested in sharing interests with you at all.
If a guy makes an effort to get to know you better and becomes genuinely interested in what’s going on in your life, it is a good sign that he sees you as part of his future.
You see, people often make an effort when they are interested in someone because they want to find out more about them as a person and how they might fit into their life.
So if he shows interest in getting to know you better and becomes genuinely interested in what’s going on in your life, it is likely that he sees you as part of his future.
If he is not interested in your life, then he likely does not see you in his future.
10) He shows no interest in other women
If he shows no interest in other women and is not looking at other women, then it is a good sign that he is planning to be with you for the long term.
Sure, to a certain extent, it can be part of our biology to still be attracted to other people, but if you notice that he is not showing any actual interest in other women or engaging in flirting, he wants to get serious with you.
He wants to be with you for the long term.
If he is looking at other women, then he likely does not see you in his future.
11) He doesn’t play games
If he doesn’t play games and is not keeping you on your toes, it is a good sign that he is planning to be with you for the long term.
A player is someone who uses others for his own benefit and does not care about them or their feelings.
A man who is a player will often find himself involved in several relationships at once and will often have affairs that are separate from the one he has with you.
When a man plays games, it is usually because he wants to get something out of it or because they don’t really see you as someone important to them, so they don’t really care about your feelings at all.
12) He gets jealous
When a guy gets jealous, it is a sign that he wants to be with you for the long term.
Now I know, jealousy can be a bit unhealthy at times, but in moderation, it is normal, and can even be a good thing!
You see when we really like someone, and someone else comes into “our territory”, it is our instinct to get jealous.
If the guy you are seeing is not jealous at all, he likely doesn’t care about you as much as you’d like.
If you are seeing a guy who is not getting jealous, he likely doesn’t see you as someone he wants to build a relationship with.
And when a guy doesn’t get jealous, it’s often because he has already made up his mind about the relationship and doesn’t care if you date other people or even have other relationships in your life.
In most cases, this means that he hasn’t fully committed to it yet either and is just looking for an easy way out of the situation.
So if your boyfriend isn’t getting jealous at all, chances are he probably isn’t planning to commit to you in the future either.
13) He is able to talk about the future with you
Finally, if he is able to talk about the future with you, then he likely sees you as part of his future.
After all, when a man is in love with a woman, he wants to make sure that she knows that he sees her as an important part of his life.
He wants to make sure she knows that he values her time and wants more of it with her.
So if a guy can talk about the future with you and believe in it, then it shows that he sees you as part of his future.
Trust me, when a man wants to be with you, he will move mountains to make it happen.
He won’t be afraid of telling you and he will share his ideas about the future with you.
Does he see you long-term?
Ready to find out if he sees a long-term relationship with you? Grab your pen and paper and go through each of these signs.
If you notice that he is doing several (or all!) of these things, then he likely sees a long-term relationship with you and wants to be with you long-term.
Now that you know the signs that he wants a long-term relationship with you, you can be sure to keep the relationship going for the long haul!
By now you should have a good idea of whether a guy sees you in his future or not.
So what can you do to make him want you even more?
Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.
You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.
And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.
So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.
Click here to watch his excellent free video.
