If you slept with him too soon, the article will provide some tips on how to keep him interested.
We’re going to tell you exactly what to do here in this guide of things that will make him interested in YOU again even if he thinks it was too soon for him.
Let’s start digging, shall we?
1) Don’t be needy if you want him to call you
If he calls you after a few days, and if he liked what he saw, then you can start to ask him for some intimacy.
Don’t go straight to sex. Don’t make him feel like you’re having trouble sleeping unless he made that clear with his text.
Even better, if there’s already an implied form of intimacy in the previous text messages between the two of you, such as biting each other’s necks or kissing each other’s body parts, then it will be easier for him to accept your request.
Giving men the opportunity to initiate calling you back makes it easier for him to return your call and make a plan on when and where you can hook up again.
Think about it.
Men want to be in charge. And believe it or not, they don’t like needy women.
Don’t start being all clingy and desperate. This will make him think, “I didn’t know her well enough to feel this way about her” or “I realize now I made a mistake.”
This can be extremely scary for a man.
You need to give him time and space so he still feels like a man who made the move on you or it’s not going to work out.
Men want to feel they are in control. If you do this, you’ll look clingy and weak. Men don’t care about that, that’s why they don’t call women who are needy and desperate for their attention.
2) Build trust by texting first
The most important thing you can do is build trust.
Don’t be needy and annoying, but don’t come across as someone who doesn’t care, either. Don’t beg him to call you or say “I miss you.”
Instead of writing nothing at all, write something that will make him smile and laugh.
For example, if the two of you already had a text conversation about going out on a first date in the future, don’t send this text: “It was great seeing you. When shall we go out again?”
Why not? It might seem like an innocent question… but what will his reaction be if you have said “I miss you” or asked him when he wants to see you again?
A better text would read: “It was great seeing you again. It’s been a long time since we last met. When shall we go out again?”
If he replies with a smiley face, something like “no rush” or something more specific, such as “any day”, then that’s more of what he wants to hear. And it’s good enough for him.
You’re showing him that you’re feeling the same way, but in a subtle way.
That would make more sense, right?
3) Get expert help figuring out how to keep him interested
If this is the first time you’ve ever been in this situation, then you might be having a hard time getting what you want.
You need to reach out to the right person who can help you figure this out.
It’s much easier for the expert to help you and pinpoint what exactly is going wrong with your approach when it comes to texting guys or emailing them or asking him on dates, compared to someone who is not an expert.
You can always get expert help from a dating coach on your important steps to take when it comes to interacting with him romantically.
The truth is, understanding men is much easier than most women realize – we tend to overcomplicate things a lot.
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4) Learn how to tease
Women always tell me that they’re afraid of doing something wrong, but I tell them you’re always better off keeping him on his toes than letting him know exactly what you have in mind.
When a woman knows exactly what he wants and gives it to him, she loses all the power.
That’s why teasing is so important in relationships.
When a guy is interested in you, he’ll want to get to know more about you.
And the best way is to make him feel like there’s more than just a hook-up between you two.
So how do you do that?
A lot of girls get into the habit of saying the same thing right after they hook up with a guy. And this is something that may turn him off.
Don’t give him a ton of information at the beginning, but drop a few tidbits here and there. This will keep his interest in you.
5) Let him know there’s more to you he hasn’t seen
Yes, it’s true!
It’s also important that you make him interested in you by letting him know there’s more to you than he may have seen.
If a guy is interested in what you have to say, he’ll be more likely to call you back.
Give him the impression that there’s more to you than he has seen.
If you’ve kept a low profile, he might have wondered whether or not this is just another girl.
This will make him curious and he will try to get more details out of you.
When someone is interested in something, they have a burning desire to find out more about it.
The longer you leave it without telling him everything, the harder it will be for him to forget about you and move on.
6) Keep him guessing and thinking about you
It’s crucial to keep him guessing and let him know that there is a lot more to you he hasn’t seen. Don’t make it too easy on him.
This is exactly what will keep his interest in you alive.
But how do you keep him thinking about you? It’s really quite simple.
Make sure he doesn’t know how you feel.
Be playful, but don’t be “too playful.”
Let him know that he’s not the only one who wants to play hard to get.
If he knows that all you want is sex, then it’ll look like there’s no point of running after you.
Instead, make him ask a million questions about you.
You’ll get what I mean when I say this is tricky.
Here’s why… Most guys love to know about women’s personal lives, but don’t like feeling like they are being interrogated.
If a woman gives them all the details from the first minute of talking, it may become a routine for them and then they lose interest in you.
You don’t want a guy who just wants sex from you and nothing else because it will make even less sense for a guy to continue contacting you if nothing else than his lust is driving him to do so.
7) Keep it sexy
The best way to keep a man interested is to keep it sexy, the same way he will stay interested in you is by staying sexy.
Keep it sexy whenever you talk.
Don’t let him know that you’re always serious or you’re always in a good mood.
Make him think that maybe there’s more to what he sees with you and that makes him want more of your time and energy.
You can do this by being charming and sexy without seeming needy or desperate.
As with all things, it’s about finding the balance.
Don’t let him know he’s 100% special in your life; let him know that even though he may not be the only one for you, he is special and different from other guys you are meeting.
8) Don’t sleep with him next time when you see him again
Keeping a man interested after sex obviously means seeing him again.
When you call with him, make sure that it’s just as innocent as before.
Don’t expect for any intimacy to happen.
Make sure the second time you see him is when you’re already feeling more comfortable.
If he does want to get intimate with you soon after meeting you, then try to make it clear that those who go forward are the ones who will get hurt.
You can hint at this, but don’t be too obvious about it or he won’t respect you for not wanting to sleep with him again so quickly.
You can tell him that what happened was great and all, but now you need time because you’re not looking for a relationship right now or something like that.
You need to make him wait for a bit for you to get over being too desperate and needy for his attention.
9) Don’t be afraid to play hard to get
It’s different than playing hard to get in the beginning by not returning his calls.
Once you start seeing him on a regular basis, then playing hard to get can prove more challenging.
However, there are ways you can do it without being apparent about it all the time.
Try not to think about him all the time and try not to text or call him too often.
Most men don’t want a woman who’s always thinking about them.
If you’re thinking about him too much, then it’ll come across as you not having your own life.
Men will think that if you’re always thinking about him, then when he’s not around, you’ll have nothing else to do but wait for his next call or text.
This is going to make him feel secure because he’ll feel as though he has control over your time and your emotions.
When a man feels this way, there’s a good chance he’ll get bored and move on to someone else.
10) The tricky tip: don’t follow him on social media
This is a little trickier than the rest, but it’s a good one because it’ll make it look like you’re not interested in him.
If he is on social media, make sure you don’t check out his profile to see if he follows you back or not.
If you follow him on Instagram and Facebook, it’ll make it look as though you’re just waiting for him to post something cool and interesting.
Men don’t like women who go after them because they have a lot of social media followers.
Never be the one who contacts him first.
Don’t give him a reason for his ego to go wild. Let him pursue you and let him fight for your attention and time.
11) Focus on his brain, not on his body
Just because a guy is good-looking doesn’t mean you should focus all your attention on him.
If you do, it’ll just make it seem as though you’re only into him because of his looks and not because of who he is as a person.
Instead, try to get to know him or have conversations with him about other things than sex, dating or meeting for the first time.
Many men have told us that they feel insecure and inferior when a woman is too concerned with their looks.
Most men don’t want a woman who’s only thinking about their appearance.
They want a woman who has substance, and it’s hard to find someone like that if all you care about is looks.
You can tell this by asking him questions about family, school, friends or even his job.
This makes him feel that you’re interested in him because he has more to offer than his looks and muscles.
He’ll think that you’re talking with him because of what’s going on in his head, not just because of what’s going on below his belt.
12) A key to all of this is confidence
Let’s say you’re really into a guy and you want him to call eventually, but you’re afraid that he might not call again.
This is when the text conversation becomes important to you.
Make sure that every time he calls, it’s just as normal as before.
Make sure there’s no unnecessary pressure from him, and at the same time make sure there’s no unnecessary space from him either.
Be careful not to make any attempts to contact him for a bit until you feel ready for things to move forward again.
If you don’t feel like you have enough confidence to do that, then maybe this guy isn’t worth your time after all.
After all, if you can’t even trust yourself to take responsibility for yourself and feel confident about things, then how can he ever really trust what you say?
13) Be mysterious
The best way to get his attention and make him want to text you back is by creating an air of mystery.
It’s not enough to just be yourself and hope that he’ll like you because as we all know, if it was that easy, then every single person on this planet would have a partner and no one would ever be single ever again.
Being mysterious will help keep him on his toes, wondering if there’s something more to you than what he initially thought.
A good way to do this is by using made-up names, sometimes just as an alias.
Leave out any details about you and make sure that he doesn’t know how to contact you personally.
You can refer to your messages as “pokes” or “sms”, but not personal phone numbers.
This way he won’t get a chance to start something with you personally if he texts you back and you decide to drop the conversational ball and not reply after a while.
14) Keep your independence
Why?
Because if you are a needy woman, you’ll be even more needy after he slept with you.
If he sees that you have a life or something to do on your own, that’s better than clinging to him and wanting him all the time.
This will make sure that his attraction for you doesn’t come from what he gets from you.
Men are more likely to chase you if they know that you’re independent and that you won’t hold them back.
You want a guy who thinks your independence is sexy, not annoying.
To keep him interested, don’t let him think that he owns you or that you’ll be at his beck and call 24/7.
What we’re saying here is that it’s best to be playful in a way where he can see the potential of entering into a relationship with you.
You see, men like to feel like they’ve been chased and that they are close enough to you that you couldn’t possibly run away.
This will make him happy and it will also help keep him interested in you, because he’ll know that there’s a chance of a future with you.
Don’t worry too much about making your independence look fake. Just make sure it seems as if he can’t get away from you without some effort or without his hopes being crushed.
15) Focus on yourself
Don’t focus on him too much, this might make you look desperate.
If you want him to be interested in you, then you need to stay confident.
Do things that make you happy. Eat healthy, exercise and invest time in yourself.
How do these things keep him interested?
Well, it’s hard for a man to get over somebody who is always happy and fun and who seems to be doing well on her own without his help.
And you know what?
It’s also a turn-off for a man when he sees that the woman he’s with is unsatisfied with herself or insecure about herself or her looks.
Love yourself and have some fun!
If you’re not having fun, then why would he?
The above-mentioned points are important to do, but we all know that the biggest thing a woman can do to keep the attention of a male is by being fun and sexy.
Not too sexy but sexy enough that she is enticing. Never forget this because it will be your best weapon.
And remember, if you want him to call you back, then don’t talk about your past or personal problems. This will make him think, “Why should I bother pursuing her?”
When you’re proud of yourself and the person that you are and when it looks like you’re enjoying yourself, he’ll want to be a part of that.
He’ll want to be a part of your life if he knows that being with him makes you happy too, not just about his attention or his actions but about who and what kind of person he is.
With these factors, we can conclude that there’s no need to beg.
Just follow the 15 tips above and you should be able to get him to at least call you again and initiate a text conversation with you.
If you are still not sure he is interested or not, you can seek out an answer yourself first
And what’s the solution to keep him interested even if you slept with him too soon?
The answer is contained in the relationship you have with yourself.
I learned about this from the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me to see through the lies we tell ourselves about love, and become truly empowered.
As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, love is not what many of us think it is. In fact, many of us are actually self-sabotaging our love lives without realizing it!
We need to face the fact about he maybe not interested after you slept with him too soon.
Far too often we chase an idealized image of someone and build up expectations that are guaranteed to be let down.
Far too often we fall into codependent roles of savior and victim to try to “fix” our partner, only to end up in a miserable, bitter routine.
Far too often, we are on shaky ground with our own selves and this carries over into toxic relationships that become hell on earth.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution.
If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships, and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear.
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Conclusion
Sex is great, but your relationship is what will last.
It’s also important that you make sure that you know what you want in a partner because sometimes we like the wrong thing.
Take some time to really know him and he’ll start to fall for you more and more.
Remember, when you want to keep him interested, don’t beg him for a second chance. Get his attention by not letting him forget your phone number.
Don’t focus too much on sex and things that he’s doing for you. Focus instead on keeping your independence as a woman and having fun.
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