Are you worried that your wife might want to leave you?
How will you know if she’s planning to ditch you and move on with her life?
In order to know what to expect and when to do something about it, you should know the signs your wife wants to leave you:
1) You’ve lost the intimacy in your relationship
A loving and satisfying relationship is a two-way street where you both give and take.
As such, the intimacy should be balanced.
However, if one of you has lost the spark and you’ve stopped having sex, it could be a sign that one of you is losing interest in the relationship.
If your wife has lost the desire to get intimate with you, it could be a sign that she is losing interest in your relationship and moving on mentally, if not physically.
This might be because you’ve gained weight, you don’t take care of yourself, or you’re too stressed out to have sex anymore.
It might also happen because you’re not paying attention to her or that you’ve grown apart and don’t know how to get back in sync.
Sometimes, it has nothing to do with you at all, though. You see, sometimes, people simply lose interest without apparent reason, because they are going through their own stuff.
However, intimacy does not always just mean sex.
Losing intimacy might mean that you don’t enjoy much time together anymore, you don’t share your deepest thoughts, and you don’t even talk much anymore.
Being intimate with someone means trusting them fully and opening up about everything in your life, it’s not always just physical.
Now: you could argue that emotional intimacy is even more important than physical one, especially in a happy marriage.
You see, the spark to be together comes and goes, but emotional intimacy should always be there.
2) Your wife is constantly complaining and you feel ignored
If you feel like your wife is constantly complaining about everything and you’re unable to get her to stop, it could be a sign that she’s unhappy with your relationship and her life.
A woman who is content in her relationship is happy and optimistic.
She’s not constantly complaining or feeling sorry for herself.
She’s working hard to fix problems and move on with her life.
If your wife is constantly complaining and you feel like you’re getting ignored, it could be that she is unhappy and wants out of the relationship.
She might be holding you accountable for all of her unhappiness.
You see, constant complaining should be a red flag as it is, it shows that something is wrong.
This is especially true when your wife is usually the optimistic type, seeing everything in a positive light.
Now: if she suddenly starts complaining a lot about everything, whether that’s how you do the dishes, or how she has to cook alone every day, or anything like that, that’s a sign you should pay attention to.
The truth is, if your wife is complaining, that is actually a good sign.
Let me explain:
While your wife might not be happy in the marriage and playing with the thought of leaving, the fact that she is complaining means that she still cares.
It gets dangerous when she stops complaining because that means she doesn’t care anymore.
That’s when you know she has mentally already ended the relationship and moved on.
So, if she is complaining, you might still have a chance. Try to figure out what she’s complaining about.
If you can’t figure it out, then you should try to talk to her about how you can improve as a husband and how you can make your marriage better.
When you have a problem, try to figure out why it is happening and how you can fix it.
If you’re not willing to work on it, then your wife will be unhappy and will ultimately be looking to leave.
What would a relationship coach say?
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3) She has a sudden interest in your finances and credit cards
If your wife has a sudden interest in your finances, it could be a sign that she is planning to leave you.
If she knows that you are financially supporting her, she might be planning to leave you to but wants to make sure that she is all set in terms of the money.
She may be planning to leave you and move on with her life.
You see, she may also be planning to get a job, so she can financially support herself and live on her own.
If your wife has a sudden interest in your finances, it’s a sign that she is planning to leave you.
She may be digging through your credit cards to find the card with the highest limit and the least debt.
She could also be looking at your bank accounts and credit card statements to see how much debt you owe.
Now: just because your wife is interested in finances all of a sudden is no reason to worry if that is the only sign you notice.
You see, she might have read a book or seen a video talking about the importance of finance and now she simply wants to educate herself, which is a great thing.
She may also be interested in your finances because she wants to help you with money.
She might want to help you with the house and yard, which is a great thing.
But if she is looking at your finances because she wants to leave you, then that’s not a good sign.
In that case, you will notice multiple other signs on top of this one, though.
4) She’s always busy with work and doesn’t have time for you
If your wife is always busy with work and doesn’t have any time for you, it could be a sign that she’s restless and eager to move on with her life.
If your wife has changed her career from being a stay-at-home mom to a workaholic career woman, it could be a sign that she is not interested in the family life anymore and wants to do her own thing.
You see, just because your wife started working again or is focused on her work is not a sign she will leave you.
On the contrary, she might just want to help out more financially and have more time and money for you both.
However, if she is always busy with work and has no time for you, that can be a sign that she is actually wanting to move on from you.
5) The way she treats you has changed
The way your wife treats you has changed and become more distant.
She might not be putting in the same effort in your relationship and might be looking to move on with her life.
If your wife is becoming more withdrawn and distant, it might be a sign she has lost interest in your relationship and is ready to move on.
You see, if your wife has always been friendly, but has become more distant and withdrawn, it could be a sign that something isn’t right for her in the relationship and she wants to move on.
The thing is, the way you treat one another in a marriage should be more or less consistent.
Sure, some days you’re more affectionate than other days, but all in all, the respect you have for one another should be there at all times.
If the way your wife treats you has changed and become more distant, it could be a sign she wants to move on from the relationship with you.
You will notice that she is talking down on you, not making you a priority, never being affectionate, and not making romantic gestures to you.
You will also notice that in her own behavior.
If your wife is no longer as happy and has lost her sparkle, it could be a sign that she wants to move on from the relationship with you.
6) She’s obsessed about her appearance and looks great all the time
If your wife has always been beautiful, but now she is more obsessed with her appearance than ever before, it could be a sign that she’s ready to move on with her life.
Okay again, this is not a definite sign that your wife is ready to move on.
You see, she might just have a new interest in beauty or fashion, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
However, if you notice that she is obsessed with her appearance only when she goes out by herself with her friends or to business meetings, that can be a sign that she is ready to move on from you.
If the way she looks has changed, it could be a sign that she wants to move on from the relationship with you.
You will notice that she is always looking great and always has a new haircut or new clothes, and her hair and makeup are never off.
You will also notice that her appearance is always on point when she goes out.
If your wife’s appearance has changed, it could be a sign that she wants to move on from the relationship with you.
Now, it doesn’t have to necessarily mean that she is cheating, but it can indicate that she at least wants to look good for people other than you.
7) You’re fighting constantly
If you and your wife are constantly fighting, it could be a sign that she is unhappy in your relationship and ready to move on with her life.
If you and your wife have always been happy and in love, then suddenly you start fighting all the time, it could be a sign that she is done with the marriage and wants to start a new chapter of life.
You see, fighting can be healthy in a relationship, no doubt about it, but when the fighting becomes a constant part of your lives, that’s not good.
You and your wife should be able to fight and disagree with each other without getting into an argument or a fight.
If you notice that you are fighting constantly, it could be a sign that your wife wants to move on from the relationship with you.
The thing is, fights can make you a lot more likely to feel like you need to leave the marriage.
Constant fighting shows that something isn’t quite right, and you definitely need to watch out for that.
8) She’s secretive about her phone and computer usage
If your wife is secretive about her phone and computer usage, it could be a sign that she is in contact with someone else and doesn’t want you to know who it is.
If your wife has never been secretive about her phone calls and computer usage, but now she is, it could be a sign that she is hiding something from you.
Now: it doesn’t necessarily have to be an affair, she might also be researching how to get a divorce or anything like that.
Either way, being secretive about your phone and computer is almost never a good sign, especially when it’s out of the blue.
Sure, some people are always secretive about those things, because that’s just the way they are, in which case it’s not a red flag.
However, sudden changes in behavior like that can show that she is hiding something, and if there are more signs from this article that apply to your wife, it’s probably not a surprise party for you that she’s hiding.
9) She has a loss of interest in activities you enjoy together
If your wife has always been a part of all the activities you enjoy, but now she has a sudden loss of interest, it could be a sign that she is ready to move on with her life.
You see, usually, each couple has a few activities they just like to do together, like going to the gym, going on hikes, watching a show together, playing games together, whatever it is!
However, lately, you’ve noticed that your wife has had a sudden loss of interest in doing these things, and it’s been a major change from the way she was before.
She used to be all about going on hikes, but now she doesn’t want to go anymore.
She used to like playing games together, but now she doesn’t want to play games with you.
She used to be all about going to restaurants with you, but now she doesn’t want to go anymore and it’s really strange behavior for her.
Noticing this sudden change in behavior can be a red flag, she might be thinking about leaving you.
Talk to her about it openly and calmly, and see if there is another reason why she doesn’t want to do those things.
10) Your relationship is drifting apart
If you and your wife have always been close and you’ve always been able to resolve your problems together, but now you’re drifting apart, it could be a sign that she wants out of the relationship.
You see, a relationship that’s drifting apart is sometimes hard to save, but it’s possible.
The first step is awareness.
The thing is, most people don’t realize their relationship is drifting apart until it’s too late.
They go on living their lives and the marriage is deteriorating and they don’t know how to get it back.
You must be aware of this problem, even if it’s not showing itself in the above list that applies to you.
Once you realize it’s the case, that is the time for you to put things into motion in order to save the relationship.
It could mean planning more date nights, communicating with each other, or anything you think will help.
You might still have time to save your marriage
If you feel like your wife wants to leave, remember that you might still have time to save your marriage.
Your relationship might not be completely ruined yet, so you might still have a chance to save it.
You can do it if you put in the effort and get your marriage back on track.
It will require work and dedication, but if you think your marriage is worth it, you should put the effort in.
However, if your wife is dead-set on leaving, there is really nothing you can do about it, no effort will help.
In that case, don’t beat yourself up for it. Either way, you will find a way to be okay.
