Ending a long-distance relationship can be one of the most challenging experiences an individual has to face.
If you are reading this article, it means that you have already made up your mind to end things with your long-distance partner.
Breaking up is never easy but there are ways to do it in a respectful and thoughtful way, and I will show you how:
1) Have a heart-to-heart talk with your partner
If you have been dating your partner for a while, it is essential to have a heart-to-heart talk with them to break up with them.
This is the best way to let your partner know how you feel.
You can start the conversation by saying how much you appreciate the time you two were together.
The best way to do it is, to be honest.
Let your partner know how you feel and what you want. Let them know what you don’t want anymore.
While you want to be honest, you also don’t want to be rude.
You don’t want to say things that will hurt your partner or make them feel bad about themselves.
So, make sure you choose your words wisely when breaking up with your partner.
I know, you probably don’t want to talk about all those things with your partner, but it’s important.
You see, the thing is, if you don’t end a relationship properly, it will be much harder to move on, believe me!
So, in order to break up properly, have a heart-to-heart talk.
During this talk, you will be able to properly discuss the breakup, but you might even be able to talk about the main issues you are facing and even find a solution.
You never know.
I know, long-distance relationships are difficult, so it’s totally understandable if you don’t want to talk about it, but I still recommend that you do.
2) Don’t ghost your partner; be honest about why you’re ending things
Ghosting is one of the worst ways to break up with someone you are dating.
It is also one of the most common ways to break up with a long distance partner.
If you decide to break up with your long-distance partner, be honest about why you are doing so.
Don’t just cut off all communication and disappear from your partner’s life.
Tell your partner that you are ending things and why.
Don’t try to justify your decision by criticizing your partner. Instead, focus on the fact that you are not ready to be in a relationship at the moment.
Let your partner know that you want to end things because you want to focus on yourself right now.
You see, in my eyes, ghosting is one of the worst things you can do to someone. You are giving them no chance of closure or even feedback, so they know what to work on.
Personally, I don’t even like to ghost people I’ve only been on a few dates with.
If I’m not interested, it’s really not too much effort to take 3 minutes and tell them that.
And if you were in a whole relationship? Oh please, don’t ghost, that is a terrible idea.
Before you ghost someone, it’s better to send a message, which really is not that hard.
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3) Meet in person to end the relationship for good
If you have been in a long-distance relationship for a while, you should try to meet your partner in person at least once to break up.
If you have been in a long-distance relationship for a long time, you should try to meet your partner in person at least once.
It is important to see your partner in person to end things for good.
Seeing each other in person will help you understand that things are truly ending.
Seeing each other in person will also force you to confront the reality of your long-distance relationship.
You will understand that there are too many obstacles in the way for you to be together.
You see, when you end things on the phone, it will never feel real.
When you meet in person, you will feel the actual pain of ending things.
It will make it hurt more, but you will be able to get over it easier.
It is important to break up with your partner in person.
You will understand that the relationship is truly ending the moment you see each other in person.
This will make it easier for you to move on and start a new chapter of your life.
Plus, it gives you both the chance to have a proper goodbye, instead of just never seeing each other again.
So, if you have been in a long-distance relationship for a long time, it is important to try to meet your partner in person if you want to break up.
I get it, sometimes that’s not a good option, especially if your partner lives so far away that you need to fly out to see them.
In those cases, I understand that it might not be worth the money for you to travel to see them just to break up.
However, depending on how long you’ve been dating, it is worth it.
Maybe you can only spend a day there, and then move on and travel on your own for a bit?
4) Be upfront about your feelings
During the conversation in which you break up with your long-distance partner, let them know what you are feeling.
Let them know that you are not ready to be in a relationship.
Let them know that you only want to be friends with them.
Whatever you are thinking, let them know that you don’t want to be with them anymore.
Be upfront about your feelings and don’t try to hide them.
Also, make sure that you don’t try to justify your decision by criticizing your partner.
Let your partner know that you value the time you two were together but that you are not ready to be in a serious relationship.
Being upfront about your feelings without criticizing your partner too much will be the key to successfully breaking up with a long-distance partner.
You want them to understand that it is over for good without hurting them so much that they feel terrible about themselves.
Yeah, breakups suck either way, but you don’t have to make your partner feel like it’s all their fault, when in reality, life just happens and feelings change.
5) Don’t use technology to end things
Break up with your long-distance partner in person and try to not use technology to break up with your long-distance partner.
Technology has become a big part of our lives.
It can help us with so many things, but it can also make things difficult at times.
If you have been dating your partner for a while, texting and calling them all the time isn’t anything new, especially in a long-distance relationship.
If you have been dating your partner for a while, don’t use technology to break up with them.
I know, it’s convenient and it’s been your main form of communication, but that doesn’t mean that you should use that as a way to break up with them.
Don’t text, call, or use any other form of technology to break up with them. Just go out there and break up with them in person.
If that is not possible, then I understand, but if you can help it, try to do this in person.
You see, especially if you’ve been dating for a while, breakups are something that can’t really be processed properly over the phone.
You need to go out there, talk to them in person, and let them know that it’s over.
This will give you both the opportunity to find closure.
6) Send a nice, heartfelt email/letter explaining why you are breaking up
If you decide to break up with your long-distance partner, you can send them an email/letter explaining your decision.
This is only a good idea if seeing them in person is not an option at all.
This is a nice way of breaking up with them without having to meet them in person.
You can write an email/letter explaining why you are breaking up.
Let your partner know that you value the time you two were together but that you are not ready to be in a serious relationship right now.
Let them know that you don’t want to be with them anymore.
You see, while breaking up in person is still superior, a letter, a message, or an email can really help you get all your feelings into words.
On the phone, it can be hard to know what to say sometimes, so starting the breakup off with a letter can be a good idea.
Anything you want to say can be in there, and afterward, you could hop on a call and talk things out with your partner.
This works especially well for anyone who has a way with words.
7) Don’t try to justify your decision by criticizing your ex
If you are in a long-distance relationship, you might have wondered about your partner’s qualities.
You might have wondered whether you made the right decision by being with your long-distance partner.
But don’t try to justify your decision by criticizing your partner.
Avoid criticizing your long-distance partner while breaking up with them.
Let your partner know that you value the time you two were together but that you are not ready to be in a relationship.
Sure, they are probably part of the reason (or even the entire reason) you are breaking up, but being dumped is hard enough as it is, you don’t have to rub it in and tell them how terrible of a partner they are.
Let them know that you don’t want to be with them anymore but don’t spend too much time on it.
If you do, you might end up saying something you shouldn’t.
Trust me, they will be sad enough, so it’s better to just let them down easy.
8) Don’t try to be friends right after the breakup
Break up with your long-distance partner and don’t try to be friends with them right after the breakup.
You might feel like you want to be friends with them after breaking up with them.
We are social beings, so we want to be friends with everyone we meet.
But, when you break up with your partner, you can’t be friends with them right away.
Don’t try to be friends with your ex right after the breakup.
You need time to heal after breaking up.
Breakups can be emotionally challenging for some people. You need time to process what happened between you and your ex.
The romantic feelings will not just disappear from one day to the next, so you will need to take some time to settle down and get yourself together.
You don’t want to be friends with someone you are breaking up with, so make sure you take some time to process what happened between you two.
After a few months or years, it is totally possible to be friends, you just need some time and space at first.
9) Make a point to continue growing individually
If you have been in a long-distance relationship for a while, you might have started to rely on your partner a lot.
You might have wanted your partner to make all the decisions concerning your future.
After a while, this might have led to resentment and arguments.
You can avoid resentment and arguments by making a point to continue growing individually.
After the breakup, focus on your own self-development.
Read books, listen to podcasts, and attend seminars. Take personal development seriously, and you will grow as a person.
This will not only help you to move on from the relationship, but it will also help you to become a better person and attract an amazing partner in the future.
This is your time to shine, focus on yourself and you will thrive.
10) Take time to heal before moving on
Long-distance relationships are difficult, and they are challenging to maintain.
If you have been in such a relationship for a while, you need time to heal after breaking up.
You need time to process what happened between you and your ex.
Don’t rush into another relationship after breaking up with your long-distance partner. You need time to heal and focus on yourself.
Take time to focus on your own self-development and don’t rush into another relationship.
Breakups are difficult and challenging, and they can leave you emotionally drained and exhausted.
If you have been in a long-distance relationship for a while, breakups are even more difficult.
After breaking up with your long-distance partner, don’t rush into another relationship. Take time to heal and focus on yourself.
The thing is, if you rush into another relationship, you will not be in a good place emotionally yet, and you will probably just sabotage your new relationship!
Instead, take some time to be alone and you will realize that you have a lot to learn and work on.
What to do after breaking up with a long-distance partner
After breaking up with your long-distance partner, make sure that you don’t make any drastic changes in your life.
Don’t go out partying and drinking with your friends all the time.
Don’t go out looking for another relationship immediately.
And most importantly, don’t try to replace your ex or find a new partner immediately.
Instead, focus on yourself, heal, and grow as an individual. You will be okay, and so will your ex-partner.
By choosing the right way to break up, you will both be able to move on from the relationship and you will both have closure.
If possible, do it in person and avoid using technology for your breakup.
