Long-distance relationships can be challenging, and there comes a time when you might ask yourself if it’s time to let go of your long-distance relationship.
This is a difficult choice, maybe even more difficult than a regular breakup.
However, I will tell you 11 signs that it’s time to let go of your LDR and move on with your life:
1) You’re no longer having fun
If you can’t remember the last time you had fun with your partner, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.
Long-distance relationships are often challenging, but if you’re not having fun anymore, there’s really no point in continuing.
It’s good to remember that love doesn’t always last forever. If the passion is gone and it’s no longer fun, it’s best to let it go.
If your long-distance relationship is no longer bringing you joy, then it’s definitely time to reevaluate.
If you’re sick and tired of missing your partner and feeling lonely, then it’s time to end the LDR and move on.
You see, long-distance relationships are already harder than normal relationships and it’s difficult to find fun things to do together when you live in different places and barely get to see one another.
However, in order for it to work, you need activities that are fun for both of you, like watching a show together, playing a game together, or doing online dates.
If you don’t have any fun activities together, the daily calls will soon get boring and repetitive, there is only so much you can talk about.
If you notice that you aren’t talking about anything anymore, if you’re running out of things to say or if you’re just not having fun anymore, then it’s time to end the relationship.
2) You feel distant from your partner
Long-distance relationships can be great for relationships, but only if the two of you are on the same page.
If you and your partner have different goals and dreams, then it can be very easy to feel distant from one another.
If you feel like you are drifting apart, then you might need to let go of your LDR. This can be a sign that you and your partner are growing apart.
If you find yourself drifting apart from your partner, then you may need to let go of your LDR.
If you’ve lost the connection you used to have with your partner, then it might be time to let go of your LDR.
You see, long-distance relationships have enough distance as is, so if you add emotional distance to the mix, that’s when things really go down the drain.
When you live close together and you go through a phase of emotional distance, the physical proximity can make up for a lot.
But if you’ve been feeling distant from your LDR partner on top of the physical distance, that can be a sign that your relationship is coming to an end.
What would a relationship coach say to your situation?
While this article explores the main signs it’s time to break up your long-distance relationship, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
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3) You and your partner have different life goals
This is a difficult one, but it can be a sign that it’s time to end your LDR.
If you and your partner have different life goals, it can be incredibly easy to feel distant from them.
If you two have nothing in common, then it can be really difficult to keep your relationship strong.
You see, if you and your partner have different goals, then it can be easy to feel distant from them.
If you two want different things in life, it can be incredibly easy to lose the connection.
Think about it: If you and your partner have different goals, it will be difficult to find a solution to being together.
Having an end goal in mind is the key to making a long-distance relationship work.
You see, an end goal doesn’t have to be a completely fixed plan that you know you will follow, but you should at least know how and when you will close the distance.
If you want to stay in your home country and your LDR partner wants to stay in theirs, those visions can’t really be combined, you either need to find a solution, or it’s time to break up.
Trust me, you will save yourself a lot of heartache and pain if you end things sooner rather than dragging the relationship on just to then break up a year or two later because you still don’t want the same things.
If your desires and life goals are very different, you will need to figure out a solution.
4) The trust in your relationship is gone
If you have lost trust in your partner and don’t think that you will ever regain it, it’s best to let go of your long distance relationship.
A relationship without trust isn’t worth anything. It’s much better to end it now instead of waiting for it to get worse.
If the trust between you and your partner is gone, it’s best to let go of your LDR.
The thing is, trust is one of the main pillars in any relationship.
If you or your partner have lost trust in each other, then it’s best to let go of your LDR before it gets worse.
Trust is the key to any relationship. If you don’t trust your partner, then it’s best to end things before they get even worse.
Now: trust can be broken in a number of ways, there could have been a lie or a betrayal, or one of the partners simply has trust issues from a previous relationship.
If it’s the latter, then that is something you can definitely work on. The thing is, if you have trust issues, that’s a problem your partner can’t solve for you, no matter how trustworthy they are, you will always find a reason to doubt them.
In that case, I recommend working on yourself either alone or with a professional to combat those trust issues.
However, if you feel like something happened that broke the trust in your relationship, you need to figure out if this is something that can be worked through or not.
Trust can be rebuilt, but it’s a long and strenuous process and both partners have to give 110% to make it work.
In the end, it’s best to be upfront with both partners. Tell them that you have trust issues and tell them what happened.
You need to be honest with yourself first and then you can have a conversation with your partner about the trust issue.
If you feel like no matter, what, you will never be able to fully trust your partner again, then it’s probably best to let the relationship go.
5) You don’t know when you’ll see each other again
If you don’t know when you’ll see your partner next, then it’s a sign that your LDR isn’t going very well.
A healthy long-distance relationship will have a set schedule and a set date to when you two will see each other again.
If you don’t know when you will see your partner again, then it might be time to let go of your LDR.
Now: I speak from experience when I say that sometimes, there is no option to know exactly when to see one another again.
I personally had a long-distance relationship in 2020 during COVID, and so we didn’t know when it would be possible to travel again.
That is obviously not a reason to break up, but if the possibilities are there and you are simply not planning a next visit, even if it’s months away, that can be a red flag.
You see, when LDR get rough, it’s super helpful to have a date to hold on to, even if that date is 6 months away.
Having no tangible goal of when to see one another again is just another sign that the long-distance relationship might be coming to an end.
6) Your communication with your long-distance partner is strained
If you two have been fighting a lot lately and your communication is strained, it could be a sign that your LDR is going downhill.
What might be a simple fight in a normal relationship, can sometimes turn into a major fight in a long-distance relationship because the communication isn’t ideal.
So, if you two are always fighting and you have a strained relationship, it might be time to let go of your LDR.
The thing is, fights can be resolved healthily through proper communication, but while being in a LDR, that communication is often just through texting.
Nothing good comes from a text fight, trust me!
So, if you feel like you’ve been arguing lot and not talking much in general, that might be a big sign that your relationship is not as good as it used to be.
This also means that you or both of you start missing calls, don’t call back, don’t text back for hours,…
You see, in a healthy relationship, there should be a good amount of communication, not too much, but you should know what’s going on in each other’s lives!
7) After talking with your partner about it, you still feel the same way
If you two have talked about your long-distance relationship and you feel the same way after that conversation, it might be time to let go of your LDR.
If you two have a serious conversation about the state of your relationship and it doesn’t get any better, it might be time to let go of your LDR.
Many things can be resolved by talking about them. Communication can make or break a relationship, but sometimes even talking things out doesn’t work.
If you bring up all the issues you have with the relationship, but nothing seems to change or you still feel the same after a good, deep talk, I’m sorry to break it to you, but they are probably not the one.
Usually, talking with your partner about these things will help you feel differently about a situation. If you don’t, that means your relationship is probably better off ending.
8) You’d rather be alone than be in an LDR
If you’d rather be alone than be in a long-distance relationship, then it might be time to reevaluate your situation.
Sometimes, the best option is to let go of your LDR and move on.
If you’d rather be alone than in a long-distance relationship, then it might be time to let go of your LDR.
You see, LDR can be great when you are scared of being alone or you simply don’t want to be single.
However, they can quickly become a comfort zone, you don’t have the obligations of a traditional relationship and you don’t feel any pressure to be a couple, so you might just feel bad about yourself and make up excuses.
If you’d rather be alone than in a long-distance relationship, then it might be time to let go of your LDR.
You see, LDR is great when you are scared of being alone or you simply don’t want to be single.
But once you realize that you enjoy spending time alone more than the calls and texts with your partner, that’s a big sign that it might be time to part ways.
The thing is, this is universally true for all relationships, once you feel more comfortable alone than with your partner, that’s a sign to let go of your LDR.
Your partner should add value to your life, not make it harder to less desirable.
9) You’re always jealous of their time
If you are jealous of their time and don’t feel happy whenever they spend time alone, then it might be time to let go of your LDR.
You should be happy for your partner and joyful that they get to see their family or friends, but if you are always jealous of their time, then it might be time to let go of your LDR.
You see, long-distance relationships can be really healthy, they offer some healthy distance that some normal couples never get.
However, they can also be extremely toxic, for example when you only feel happy while talking to your partner and can’t enjoy doing your own things.
On a similar note, you might also not want them to spend any time with their friends and family because you want them to talk to you 24/7.
It’s an easy trap to fall into, you already are so far apart, so you feel like you need to talk all the time to make up for the distance, but that’s not true.
You should still both have time to yourselves to spend doing the things you like to do, even if it’s not together.
If you notice unhealthy tendencies in your relationship, it might be more beneficial to take a break.
10) You’re not growing together anymore
If you two were once growing closer together, but now you two are growing apart, it’s time to let go of your LDR.
Long-distance relationships are good for those who want to take their time in a relationship, but if you two aren’t growing together anymore, it might be time to let go of your LDR.
You see, healthy couples grow together. They become better people and the best version of themselves in a relationship.
Do you feel like your relationship is holding you back from becoming the best version of yourself?
In that case, it might be beneficial for you to end things.
Once your partner doesn’t help you grow and evolve anymore, the relationship becomes stagnant.
Your partner should always be there to help you grow and become the best version of yourself, but if they aren’t anymore, it might be time to let go of your LDR.
11) You don’t get along anymore
If you two used to get along really well and used to have the biggest bond ever, but now you two are having a hard time getting along and have fun, that’s a red flag.
You know, as the honeymoon phase fades, you sometimes realize that you don’t even like the person you are dating all that much.
When you don’t get along anymore, it can also be a sign that you simply grew in different ways and became different people.
That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it is a sign that you are better off breaking up.
It’s better to be happy single than miserable in a relationship
Trust me, it is so much better to be single than unhappy in a relationship.
You will find yourself happier and more fulfilled in life.
Long-distance relationships are difficult, which is why only couples who are truly meant for each other survive them.
They can show you whether you two are really a good match, and they can help you grow, but LDR can also signify the end of a relationship.
If you find yourself in that situation, it’s okay. It happens and breaking up might make you happier in the end!
