Woman Crush Wednesday – Amy Chan

Woman Crush Wednesday – Amy Chan

Posted by Never Liked It Anyway on November 15, 2017
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Meet Amy Chan, the founder of Renew, a bootcamp for breakups that’s challenging the traditional ways we go about moving on. She’s fun, she’s fierce and she’s our woman crush Wednesday this week. Here’s what she had to say about all things love, dating and breaking up.
What do you do and why do you do it?

Five years ago, I was in a relationship with a man whom I thought I’d be spending the rest of my life with. He was my first love, and without realizing it, I had put much of my sense of identity into that relationship. When one day suddenly everything fell apart, I broke into pieces. Not only did I lose my partner, my best friend, but I lost my identity. I spiraled into a depression, broke out into panic attacks, and had thoughts of suicide.

During that time, I searched everywhere for a retreat or some safe place where I could go to get the healing that I needed. Unfortunately, there was nothing targeted specifically to the type of excruciating pain that comes along with detaching. It took me almost two years to fully recover from that breakup and along the way, I’ve learned critical tools for self-soothing and getting oneself back into equilibrium. I also count my blessings that I had such a great support system that helped me through the worst of the darkness.

The business idea for Renew came to me about one and a half years ago. I realized that most of the emails I get from readers of my blog were from people going through breakups and completely distraught on how to handle the pain. It was an aha moment where everything came together, and I knew that I had to be the one to create a safe space for people to come and heal in a healthy way.

What’s the best gift you ever got?
My last day as CMO of SPiN, the team planned an entire day of surprises for me, starting with a private sound meditation on a rooftop, then followed by matcha lattes delivered from my favourite cafe, then a series of thoughtful gifts from a Burning Man art book, a matcha set, to a crystal. There was so much thought and love put into making me feel loved and special, I’ll never forget it.
What’s the worst gift you ever got?
A cheap orchid from a grocery store that was a ‘thank you’ gift for letting someone stay in my apartment for a week. The thoughtlessness of the gift was offensive.
What’s your advice for all things love, sex and dating?
Love – If and when you learn that it’s nobody’s job to make you feel whole, fulfilled or worthy, then you have a shot at creating a healthy love with someone else. Most of the relationships out there are based on attachment, fear, ego interactions, and a false sense of control.
Sex – We are wired to procreate, so having sex with someone repeatedly can create feelings of attachment and bonding. Therefore, you may want to be mindful with who you have sex with.
Dating – Stop obsessing over the tactics – strategizing how long you will take to text someone back is useless – game playing just prolongs the inevitable. If your actions are birthed from a place of fear and ego, that will come out energetically. If it comes from a place of love and abundance, then that is the energy the other person will be interacting with, whether they are conscious of it or not.
What’s your go to pick me up?
Meditation. Gratitude journaling. Visualizing.
Tell us about your first heartbreak…
I used to think it was from a romantic relationship, but no, my first heartbreak was from my parents. It was witnessing and being in the middle of a lot of anger, disrespect, and instability between my mom and dad. My heart broke watching how my mom was treated and how my father didn’t know any better.
Tell us about a time you Bounced Back better than ever
I reached a point in my suffering after my breakup where I realized that I was not a victim. In fact, quite the opposite. My breakup caused me to hit such a low that I was compelled to make some major changes in my life. I realized I had a blank canvas, and that I could paint the life and love that I wanted. So I set out to do just that.
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