Sorry if my story is long but I want to tell the whole thing. February 22nd my fiancé David and basically the father of my four children (they viewed him that way for 5 years this July) passed away in my arms unexpectedly. We were fixing to get married. Well 8 weeks ago I started dating a guy named Jim. I was reluctant at first, but my dad knew him and he said he was a great guy. Jim knew my whole story about David passing away and I knew that he had been separated from his wife for 6 months. He told me that they were going to get a divorce soon & that he no longer had any feelings for her at all. Things between us was great. We hit it right off. He was such a sweetheart. He would hold me when I’d cry about David passing away. He’d tell me to let it out so that I can begin to heal. He would come and see me usually once during the week, every weekend that he could & spend the entire weekend with me. He texted me sweet messages through the day usually everyday and called me every evening. I thought I had met someone so wonderful. He told me that we could help each other heal. He also had a broken heart. That how the last six years of his marriage was awful. His wife had changed on him. He told me how cold hearted, mean and shunning she was towards him. How the day after he moved out she moved in her new boyfriend where his children lived in his own home. He said it killed his self-esteem when he found out she had been cheating on him for awhile. Well two weeks ago she broke up with that boyfriend when he hit on her. Then last week Friday June 29th he threw me a curveball. He ghosted me!!! I had never even heard of ghosting until I Googled it. He was supposed to come over to my house that evening when he got off work if he didn’t work to late. He sent me good morning beautiful message that morning. I didn’t hear a word from him for 4 days and I was so worried that something bad happened to him because he had a dangerous job, worked outside all day in these horrible hot temperatures we are having and he has some health issues. Finally I found something out Monday July 2nd when I called his boss ( I knew her personally before I met him) which is also his mother-in-law. She let me know he was doing just fine health wise. I said would you please ask him to let me know something about what is going on because he doesn’t seem like the kind of person that would just dump somebody and not call and tell them. She said no he isn’t that kind of person. Then Tuesday July 3rd he dumped me by text message!! When I read it my heart sank. I’m pretty sure someone else sent the message for him because he did not know any of the replies I had said to the text message he sent me. The message was letting me know he was getting back with his wife which he still loved. I was blown away because the day before he ghosted me he had told me how he enjoyed everything about me and when I would send him a text message saying miss you his response was I miss you more. My heart was so broken but I understood and respected the fact that he was going back to his wife. It’s just the way he dumped me so disrespectfully!!! Through a text message!!! Who does that??? My heart just crumbled! How could someone do that in that way? I still don’t understand why he would want to go back to her when she did all that to him. He finally called me that afternoon when I believe someone forced him to. He might’ve said 10 words the whole time on the phone. He didn’t even sound like the man I knew. I said what did I do wrong for you to dump me by text message? He said you did nothing wrong I still love my wife. I said I understand that but dumping someone by a text message is so disrespectful! You ripped my heart out and stomped it into a million pieces and it makes me feel like you never had any respect for me. He said I do respect you. I asked him to do me a favor. If he ever breaks up with another girl to not do it by text message because it was awful and hurts so bad!!! He was speechless. Then I told him I wish him and his family the best of luck and said thank you for helping me heal some from my loss in February. I feel I was the better person. He dumped me 6 days before my birthday which we had big plans for because he knew it was going to be a hard day for me because David use to always make a big deal out of my birthday. Tim also knew it was 9 days before me and David’s anniversary. He truly caught me off guard! I’ve learned a long hard lesson from this and have came to realize it was pretty much my own fault. I should’ve never trusted him when he said he no longer loved her and was going to get a divorce. I’ll never date a man that says he’s separated from his wife and planning on getting a “divorce”. I’m picking up the pieces of My Broken Heart!
