As the cheesy saying goes from Grey’s Anatomy, “You’re my person.” The first time someone said this to me, I didn’t know what it meant, then I began to. And with the help of Google and Grey’s re-runs, I began to understand it at a deeper level.
I think in all of our lives we each have that one person, the one person we would do anything for. Maybe it was never the relationship you wanted, but without a doubt they became the relationship or friendship you needed in your lives to function normally.
I often use the word soul-mates not to describe couples who are in love. But rather two individuals who through some divine power, have a connection that neither can deny is there.
They are the people you would call if you got one call in jail, those people whose numbers you have memorized, in a world where people barely remember their own numbers, they are the drunk calls at 2AM when you are crying your eyes out and they listen to your gibberish and sobbing with a keen understanding of you. Never do they judge you, or hold what you say against you, and even when you don’t fully remember every confession that spilled out in the darkness of the night, they hold your secrets and keep them close to their hearts.
They are the ones holding your hair back when you’re throwing up after a breakup, they are the ones taking care of you, but never taking advantage of you; you lay there in the darkness of the night, listening to their heart beat, and you begin to wonder if they notice that yours is beating faster.
They are there for the best day of your life, and when you are out celebrating and they aren’t with you, you know the only thing that would make this night better would be their presence among you.
They were there for the worst day of your life too, and as you sat in a ball in your room in a state of shock and denial, they were the only ones that knew what you were going through. They were the voice on the other end reminding you how strong you are and that you will bounce back from this. They were the one’s offering to hangout, even though you didn’t want company, because everyone knows the greatest company comes in the form of not wanting any. Humans aren’t meant to be alone, even when they say differently.
They were the ones telling you how much of an idiot your ex was, and how there is nothing remotely wrong with you. They see the beauty in you when it seems you and no one else does, and they would stop at nothing to beat up the one person who hurt you.
If ever anyone talks bad about this person, you are the first to defend them, because you know who they really are, and hold onto that secret, because the only thing more lovely than a beautiful person is when they don’t see it themselves.
Just as you don’t judge them for their past mistakes, they don’t judge you either, but it is through knowing your past they know the person you are capable of amounting to and never want you to resort back to your old ways.
They also aren’t afraid to tell you things as they are. Their brutal honesty comes out of love, and every word they say, you know has good intentions behind them. They are the ones who can tell what kind of a day you are having with a single word, they are every first like on social media, a majority of your texts, are your conversations that stream on so long you couldn’t go back if you wanted to. You never feel bad sending them six texts in a row, because, well they do the same.
There is no way to properly articulate thank you to these types of people, so you do the only thing you know how to, you love them as deeply as you are capable of, and in a world that has completely broken your heart, they are the single person who hasn’t and it is through them you hold onto a hope that there are good guys out there. They set the template for standards and expectations for what you see in others, and if ever someone doesn’t treat you the way they do, you know you are settling.
In our lives, we all come across a few people like these; it doesn’t have to be a relationship even, just a mutual love and respect that shows you in a world that can be full of ugly things, and ugly people, there will always be one you can rely on, on your darkest days, picking you up every time you fall ungracefully and there to whisper in your ear, “I love you.” These people are life soul-mates the universe refuses to give us to date, because there is a beauty in the people we once wanted, but later found out we didn’t get because we needed; they are an extension of ourselves, helping us function through every day life.
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