Why You Should Date Yourself

Why You Should Date Yourself

Posted by Daniella Appolonia on February 11, 2016
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Daniella Appolonia is a NYC-based writer and comedian who is currently studying improv at Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre. She believes laughter is the best medicine and a healthy dose of sass can get you a long way in life. She has an intense love for Mumford & Sons, Ron Swanson, avocados, and people who live like Left Shark. Follow her random thoughts on twitter at @daniellaapp or head on over to daniellaappolonia.com to read more of her writing.

Mark Twain once said, “The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.” Of course, breaking up with someone can often be one of the most vulnerable periods of your life. It’s often a completely awkward adjustment phase where it can sometimes feel impossible to be alone. However, getting back to being the best version of yourself is exactly what you need to do to get back in the game!

Being your own best friend and your own great company can help you realize just how awesome you are. So, date yourself and spoil yourself rotten! Treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated. It’ll be the best reward.

Here are five great solo date ideas for you to immerse yourself in. They’ll have you shouting without shame, “Party of one, please!”


Picnic in the park

Grab a fancy bottle of wine, some cheese and fruit, a blanket, and that book you always say you’ll make time to read. Then, throw on a sundress and head to your nearest park to catch some rays. Being out in nature is good for the soul and you’ll feel accomplished and at peace after reading even just a few pages of that novel. And, a nice little buzz from that wine won’t be so bad, either.


Cause for celebration

Okay, volunteering is not a traditional “date” activity, but it’s something you should make time for at some point, and any time can be the perfect opportunity to do this. So, sign up to work at your local soup kitchen or animal shelter. Any type of volunteer activity puts things in perspective, and even though technically you’re going “solo,” you’re guaranteed to meet some great folks along the way or at least dozens of adorable furry animals. This is a date guaranteed to put a smile on your face.


Betty Crocker’s a-callin’

Sometimes, it’s cuffing season and you don’t have someone to cuddle with. So, on a cold night, throw on some sweats, whip up some hot cocoa, and get your Betty Crocker on. Occasionally, a good baking session and some quality time in the kitchen is the best form of self-love. Forget calories for a night, bake a whole batch of chocolate chip cookies, and eat as many as you want while you re-watch an all-time favorite movie.


Pull a Rory Gilmore

Buy an overly expensive, delicious cup of coffee and get lost in a book store. It’s the best way to escape reality for a few hours. Read a guide book about that trip you’ve wanted to take or read the first few chapters of a ridiculous teen cult novel without feeling guilty about it. It’ll be perfectly peaceful and great “you” time.


Let the brush guide you

You don’t necessarily need your own Patrick Swayze in tow to attend a pottery class, although it might be helpful. But, taking yourself to a unique art class like painting or sculpture is a great way to unwind. Be your own Demi Moore from “Ghost” and don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty!


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