We all hear the horror stories: another celebrity couple calling it quits (cough cough Bradgelina), another phone call from our best friend after a break up, 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, and on and on. I grew up with divorced parents and only one of my friends has parents that are still married, so I’m well acquainted with Forever Alone Syndrome; the belief that no one in the world could possibly love you.
But the thing is, you’re great, beyond great—fantastic even! Someone is going to come along (though don’t sweat it if they haven’t yet. You are rocking it as a single, independent woman), so don’t start your boycott on love quite yet. In case you need more than just my pep-talk, I’ve compiled a list of fictional couples guaranteed to show you that love is alive and well.
Andy and April – Parks and Recreation
April: I guess I kind of hate most things, but I never really seem to hate you. So I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Is that cool?
Andy: I want to spend the rest of my life, every minute, with you. And I’m the luckiest man in the galaxy.
Andy Dwyer and April Ludgate work together so well because they each offer what the other is lacking. April has a serious, often pessimistic attitude towards life, while Andy is happy-go-lucky. He makes April smile, even during the moments when she finds the task difficult (which, for April, is most of the time.) And she helps to keep him focused on his goals because sometimes Andy’s head can get a little lost in the clouds. They bring out the best parts of each other.
What we can learn from them: Find someone who brings out the best parts of you, who lifts you up and encourages you. Also, it doesn’t hurt to get yourself a goofball like Andy—beauty fades, but a sense-of-humor lasts forever.
Uncle Jesse and Aunt Becky – Full(er) House
[after seeing a room full of flowers]
Becky: Honey, they’re beautiful. I love them. But what are they for?
Jesse: As a thank you for getting to wake up next to you every morning and fall in love with you all over again.
Uncle Jesse and Aunt Becky have been relationship goals for nearly three decades, and as evidenced by the “Full House” reboot, “Fuller House,” their love has only gotten better with age. They are the masters of compromise and of working out a problem together. In one episode, Jesse is willing to give up the tour he’s worked hard for to stay home with Becky who just found out she was pregnant. Becky refuses to let him give up on his dreams, and they come up with a solution together. Not giving away any spoilers of the newest season, but their communication has continued to be a strong suit in their relationship.
What we can learn from them: Make sure to find someone who is willing to compromise with you. A relationship is a two-way street, and sacrifices should be made by both parties. Also, if you’re struggling to find a date, throwing in a “have mercy” might not hurt.
Luke and Lorelei – Gilmore Girls
Luke: Listen, I know I’m not the easiest guy in the world to build a life with, and to share a house with, but there is no one who will be more here for you than me. I will never leave. I will never think about leaving. I will do whatever it takes to fix what’s wrong.
Luke Danes? Swoon, am I right? Luke is the dream man for any caffeine-obsessed, fast-talking sass queen, and his relationship with Lorelei progressed over the years into something anyone would be envious of.
The best thing about Luke and Lorelei is their ability to love each other for who the other person is. Luke watched as Lorelei came into his diner for her 12th cup of coffee and listened to all of her family issues over the years, and he loved her anyway. He came into her life knowing her daughter, her past relationships and her overbearing parents, and he never tried to change her. And Lorelei did the same for Luke. She accepted his daughter, his past relationships, his reserved nature.
What we can learn from them: Look for the person who embraces what makes you unique, and give the same in return. You cannot change someone into the person you want and expect them to stay. Love someone for who they are, flaws and all. Also, embrace your caffeine addiction. It might just bring you closer to love.
Amy and Rory – Doctor Who
Amy: You know when sometimes you meet someone beautiful, and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later, they’re as dull as a brick? Then there’s other people and you meet them and you think, “not bad, they’re okay.” And then you get to know them and… and their face just sort of…becomes them, like their personality is written all over it. And they just…they turn into something so beautiful. Rory is the most beautiful man I’ve ever met.
Amy defied destiny and the Nexis of time itself for Rory, and Rory waited 2000 years to be with Amy. They are the poster children for making sacrifices for love. But they also recognized the things they weren’t willing to give up.
Neither Amy nor Rory were willing to let the other person give up on their dreams for each other. Amy wanted to fly around time and space, going on adventures, and Rory was always more of the homebody type. Rory could have fought with Amy, could have left her, or could have tried to change her, but he recognized Amy’s passion and joined her on her adventures, choosing to support her instead.
What we can learn from them: You don’t have break the space-time continuum, but there are going to be moments in a relationship that require you to do things you’re not comfortable with for the sake of your partner. You have to make the sacrifices sometimes to make them happy. It’s worth their smile.
Also, try to find the one who is willing to wait around for 2000 years for you. You’re worth that dedication.
Wade Wilson and Vanessa Carlysle – Deadpool
Wade: Listen, I’ve been thinking about why we’re so good together.
Vanessa: And why’s that?
Wade: Well, your crazy matches my crazy, big time. And we’re like two jigsaw pieces, you know, with weird, curvy edges–
Vanessa: But you fit them together and you see the picture on top.
I never thought I would be envious of a superhero’s relationship until I watched “Deadpool” for the first time. Wade and Vanessa really do fit together perfectly. They have their differences, but they are similar in all the right ways: personality, sense-of-humor, morals, goals. They want what each other wants out of the relationship, and that’s what makes their relationship so strong—they are always on the same page. They laugh at the same jokes, make the same references, and are even compatible sexually (very compatible if you’ve seen the movie. Oh boy.) And they support each other in the face of any adversity, even when Wade finds out he’s terminally ill. Their love never falters.
What we can learn from them: Opposites do attract, yes, but you have to find someone who’s compatible with you. Your values can’t conflict with each other, and your personalities need to mesh well. Some people just weren’t made to get along, and that’s okay. Find someone you feel comfortable with, who makes the relationship feel natural.
Look for someone who’s crazy really matches your crazy.