French writer and prominent feminist Simone de Beauvoir once said, “To lose confidence in one’s body is to lose confidence in oneself.” You might think picking on yourself and how you look is normal and perfectly fine, but once you start with your physical self, what’s stopping you from taking jabs at your personality or your intelligence? Nothing is off limits! It’s hard enough living and navigating life in a woman’s body with other people constantly dictating how we should look, but it’s time you’ve made it easier on yourself. Here are 4 ways to appreciate and love your body more, no matter what anyone says, because you should!
1. Be naked more
When you’re fresh out of the shower and home alone, why wear a towel? Everyone has days where they just can’t face themselves in the mirror, but if you make it a tradition to do your hair or makeup in front of the mirror in just your underwear, you’ll begin to feel more comfortable in your own skin (quickly throwing on your clothes for the day as soon as you step out of the shower in order to avoid looking at yourself in the mirror is not doing you any favors). Get in front of that mirror and do your sexy dance!
2. Consume more body-positive media
Sorry, but magazines that claim to be empowering to women but consistently showcase one body type on their covers (the body type that seems to be the near-impossible standard of beauty here) are not body positive or empowering! Read more classic feminist literature, check out great memoirs from body-positivity gurus like Mindy Kaling and Amy Poehler, and watch less insecure shows. I don’t care how entertaining Keeping up with the Kardashians is or how all-consuming your obsession is— snap out of it! These shows tell you not to be happy with the body you were blessed with (and all bodies are a blessing). Instead, check out a show like HBO’s Girls, which features women with an array of body types who never once complain about how they look. Refreshing!
3. Find what flatters you
It’s completely normal to pull a dress off the rack totally in love with it and then hate it once you have it on. You’re not ugly, it happens to the best of us! Know that not everything is going to flatter your figure, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean your figure is unflattering, just a picky bitch. Find what works for you and then rock the hell out of it.
4. Flatter yourself more
We are all our own worst critics. Chances are, that cute guy on the street that just walked past you wasn’t thinking about the cellulite that you have on the back of your thighs (which basically everyone has, anyway). Be a better friend to yourself, whether that means complimenting yourself more, treating yourself more, or just prioritizing your health. You are beautiful, friend. And don’t forget it!