There’s a huge gap between being loved and being taken for granted.
That gap, my friends, is all about respect.
Respect is when he values you as much as you deserve.
But how do we know if he truly respects us or if we’re just an option?
The answer lies in his actions.
So, here I am, to tell you about the 10 signs that show he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve.
This isn’t about pointing fingers or blaming, but rather about helping you see the reality of your relationship.
1) He doesn’t make time for you
One of the most telling signs that he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve is how he spends his time.
Think about it.
Time is the one resource we can’t get back.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day, and where we choose to invest that time speaks volumes about what, or who, we truly value.
So, if he’s consistently too busy for you, or if you’re always the one adjusting your schedule to accommodate his, it might be a red flag.
This isn’t about demanding all his time.
Everyone has work, friends, and personal interests.
But if you’re always at the bottom of his priority list, he may not value you as much as you deserve.
2) He dismisses your feelings
This one hits close to home for me.
I’ve been in a relationship where my feelings were often dismissed or belittled, and let me tell you, it’s not a place you want to be.
It started off subtly.
Whenever I’d express my feelings or concerns about something, he’d laugh it off or make it seem like I was overreacting.
For example, I remember this one time when he canceled our date at the last minute for a night out with his friends.
When I told him it hurt me, he just shrugged it off and told me I was being too sensitive.
Over time, it made me second-guess my own feelings and question my worth.
It took me a while to realize that this wasn’t okay.
If he dismisses your feelings, or worse, makes you feel like you’re in the wrong for having them – that’s a clear sign he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve.
Your feelings matter, and anyone who truly respects you would acknowledge that.
3) He doesn’t support your dreams
Did you know that in a study conducted by Carnegie Mellon University, it was found that having a supportive partner can significantly boost your chances of success?
Interestingly, this isn’t just about having someone to cheer you on.
It’s about having someone who believes in your dreams, who encourages you to pursue them, and who is there to pick you up when things get tough.
If he constantly dismisses your dreams as unrealistic or unimportant, or if he doesn’t show any interest in your passions, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve.
A healthy relationship should inspire growth and encourage ambition.
Your dreams are valid, and you deserve someone who supports them wholeheartedly.
4) He doesn’t respect your boundaries
Having personal boundaries is essential in any relationship.
Boundaries are about understanding and respecting what we need to maintain our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
If he continually crosses your boundaries, whether it’s by sharing personal information about you with others without your consent, or by making you feel uncomfortable with his actions despite you expressing your discomfort, it’s a sign that he’s not valuing you as much as you deserve.
Respect for boundaries is a fundamental aspect of any healthy relationship.
If he doesn’t understand this, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
5) He doesn’t listen to you
Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship.
And a crucial part of communication is listening.
Not just hearing the words, but truly understanding what’s being said.
If he consistently talks over you, interrupts you, or dismisses your opinions without considering them, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve.
In a healthy relationship, both partners should feel heard and understood.
Your thoughts and opinions matter.
You deserve someone who listens.
6) He doesn’t appreciate your efforts
Love isn’t just about grand gestures and romantic words.
It’s found in the small, everyday things we do for each other.
The thoughtful gestures, the sacrifices, the efforts we put into making our loved one’s day a little bit better.
It’s not about seeking validation or praise for every little thing.
It’s about feeling valued and acknowledged in the relationship.
When someone truly values you, they won’t take your efforts for granted.
They’ll appreciate you, not just for what you do, but for who you are.
7) He doesn’t include you in his future plans
I remember being in a relationship where I was never part of his long-term plans.
Whenever he talked about his future, it was always “I” and never “we”.
He had plans to move to another city and pursue his career, but he never once asked me how I felt about it or if I’d be willing to make that move with him.
It was as if our relationship was a temporary thing, not something he wanted to invest in for the long haul.
When someone values you, they see you as a part of their future.
They involve you in their plans and decisions because they can’t imagine their future without you.
8) He’s overly critical of you
It might seem like being critical is a sign of caring or investing in your growth.
After all, don’t we want someone who pushes us to be our best?
But there’s a fine line between constructive criticism and just being overly critical.
If he’s frequently pointing out your flaws, picking at your mistakes, or making you feel like you’re never good enough, that’s not healthy.
It’s not about pushing you to be better, it’s about pulling you down.
Constructive criticism is given with love and respect.
It’s about helping you grow, not making you feel less than.
9) He doesn’t show interest in your life
In any relationship, showing interest in each other’s lives is important.
It’s about wanting to know more about the person, their day, their interests, their fears, and their dreams.
This isn’t just about asking how your day was.
It’s about showing genuine curiosity and care for your experiences.
10) He doesn’t make you feel loved
At the end of the day, the most telling sign that he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve is how he makes you feel.
You should feel loved, cherished, and important in your relationship.
If you often feel insecure, unappreciated, or unloved, it’s a clear sign that something isn’t right.
You deserve to feel loved and valued every single day.
It’s about self-worth
The crux of the matter lies in understanding our own worth.
In a study conducted by the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education, it was found that individuals with a strong sense of self-worth were more likely to end up in healthy, respectful relationships.
Navigating through these signs requires introspection and courage.
It’s about realizing that you deserve respect, love, and appreciation.
It’s understanding that your feelings, dreams, boundaries, and efforts are valuable.
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.
Don’t let anyone make you feel less than you are. You deserve to be valued, loved, and respected.
And remember this quote by Buddha, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
Reflect on this as you assess your own relationships.
