The first 15 to 20 yrs were good to okay. The last 10 years have been a downward spiral. My spouse turned into an alcoholic about 10 years ago, but it was subtle. More noticeable initially was the hoarding problem he developed. At this point, my house could be an episode of ‘Buried Alive.’ :( Things must go.
The past few years and especially this year, have been exceedingly difficult with his drinking and hoarding behaviors. He became increasingly irrational and abusive to me and our daughter, more often than not yelling and complaining about most anything. Couldn’t touch one thing that was his or there would be #&%$ to pay. His health declined to the point that I had to have him involuntarily admitted to the hospital since he wasn’t taking care of himself. He’s now in hospice (somewhere other than here) because the drinking pretty much destroyed his heart function and his cognition. He’s never coming back here again.
My daughter and I are finding some peace and some healing in the process of cleaning out the house. It will be a long process, but we’re gonna take it one day at a time.