Foreign Fancies
Had been with my partner for 2 years, lived together. I helped him through very difficult times and supported him financially a lot of the time as he couldn't hold a job down for more than 6 months. He proposed to me one summertime and arranged to get the ring fitted etc the following week. We had already discussed moving back to our hometown 200 miles away and I had set up job interviews and flat viewings. Then…one night he didn't come home. I then get a text at 4am saying "Just to let you know, I've met someone." Understandably shocked, I went round to his grandparents ~(where he ran away to) the next day to confront him. Apparently, he met a Dutch tourist in a bar who was in the area for 2 more days. They talked for 3 hours and that was enough for him to decide he was going to Holland to live with her. That week.
It gets better…he owed me a lot of money which I put down to a loss but he owed his mum money too. I get a phonecall from her threatening to kick my door down if I didn't put half a grand in her account. This was money that had nothing to do with me. I also get a letter from a debt agency with an outstanding balance – he had been spending the money I gave him for bills on booze and hiding the reminder letters from me!!!
Just a word of comfort for the broken hearted, I was absolutely devastated by this break-up and have yet to talk to him again and don't plan in doing so. I've now met a wonderful guy who's upfront and honest about everything and his mum is lovely! I had given up when he came into my life and has changed me so much for the better. I'm no longer bitter and cynical as my ex made me.
I know for a fact my ex regrets his decision and he's still messing up people's lives but I'm so glad it's not my problem anymore!
Break-Up Phase: (what's this?)
What a story! So glad you came out the other side so much stronger. No doubt he's still miserable living in jerkville.
it's good that you chose to let go of your bitterness
I'm glad that you are not too upset about this now, glad you found someone better... because you deserve better!