Had been with my partner for 2 years, lived together. I helped him through very difficult times and supported him financially a lot of the time as he couldn't hold a job down for more than 6 months. He proposed to me one summertime and arranged to get the ring fitted etc the following week. We had already discussed moving back to our hometown 200 miles away and I had set up job interviews and flat viewings. Then…one night he didn't come home. I then get a text at 4am saying "Just to let you know, I've met someone." Understandably shocked, I went round to his grandparents ~(where he ran away to) the next day to confront him. Apparently, he met a Dutch tourist in a bar who was in the area for 2 more days. They talked for 3 hours and that was enough for him to decide he was going to Holland to live with her. That week.
It gets better…he owed me a lot of money which I put down to a loss but he owed his mum money too. I get a phonecall from her threatening to kick my door down if I didn't put half a grand in her account. This was money that had nothing to do with me. I also get a letter from a debt agency with an outstanding balance – he had been spending the money I gave him for bills on booze and hiding the reminder letters from me!!!
Just a word of comfort for the broken hearted, I was absolutely devastated by this break-up and have yet to talk to him again and don't plan in doing so. I've now met a wonderful guy who's upfront and honest about everything and his mum is lovely! I had given up when he came into my life and has changed me so much for the better. I'm no longer bitter and cynical as my ex made me.
I know for a fact my ex regrets his decision and he's still messing up people's lives but I'm so glad it's not my problem anymore!
Break-Up Phase: (what's this?)