Never Liked it Anyway

Wish I had NEVER met YOU!

mgidney80 — Sun, 13 May 2012 18:05:12 +0000

It’s been three years since I dated him..if that is what you want to call it. I had been single going on 3 years and ended up at a long time girlfriends home for a Memorial Day get together. Ready to relax and party and spend time with people I knew. Along comes HIM. A friend of a friend. Immediately, we are attracted to each other. Hit it off well. We all have fun into the wee hours of the next morning. For a few days, sweet texts, calls and date ideas. We even planned a trip to float a river with the same friends. He was great. After we get back from the trip, he becomes distant…yet, still telling me to come over after work..so I take a 50 mile drive one way, just about every day, at his request to see him….but things aren’t adding up. I get there, and he is mowing the yard. Takes a shower, fixes himself something to eat and sits and watches TV…Never offers me anything. Mutual plans were made for a weekend, and as we are walking out the door, he tells me he will see me when he gets back. WTF? I leave, and go hang out with some girlfriends. He calls about 6 hrs later, that some kids egged his brand new truck. I lay into him about how inconsiderate he was. Invite me somewhere then tell me no? While I’m standing in your driveway? Then I get all these texts saying how he needs to change, and needs to be a better person…uh, ya think?! In this time, his grandfather passes and he agrees to go and help assess the property and take what he can salvage. A weekend trip…I knew there would be work involved, but I was ready to find out what was really going on with him..so great excuse. After sweating my rear off for two days, with NO water, NO electricity, aching to the bones from working in the heat….he decides that we are friends. Because I made that decision for us when I told him how I really felt about him leaving me the one night his truck was egged. He told mutual friends, that it didn’t work because I was going out to bars every night. I don’t drink. And I don’t go to bars. He did. He was meeting up with tons of high school friends (women) 30 miles from where he lived. On a weekly basis and sometimes daily basis…Long story short, I have NEVER had someone cause me so much unsurety about myself. My anxiety levels have spiked so high. Never had a problem with blood pressure before him. I have moved on, got a tummy tuck I wanted, feel great, LIVE with my soon to be husband who put a rock on my hand so big I could have never even imagined. Takes me shopping galore, pays my bills…and doesn’t drink. Just like me…so thanks for the HBP, and the anxiety, but really, thanks for moving on along. I wasn’t looking for anyone because of you. I’m glad this one stole my heart. And he feeds it daily.

dumped

itswhatever — Fri, 11 May 2012 14:13:25 +0000

It was cinco de mayo and of course just like any person in college it was a day of celebration. I wanted to go out with my girlfriends because i have not seen them in months because i just got back from school but i decided to stay with my boyfriend and see my friends with him. taking too many tequila shots i end up back at my friends place in the morning like i had planed. but that morning i woke up with no boyfriend next to me. just all my stuff on the table that he had that night. I called him all day and he just texted me back. Apparently during my drunken state i got jealous of him talking to some girl so in retaliation i did the same thing. and did it to many boys and apparently flirted. No cheating no anything else was done just talking and we got into a fight. During his time explaining me what was going on, i lost his trust which i understand but he also broke up with me via text. Although two weeks prior he threaten to break up with me cause we fight cause we are apart. And months before that he went through my facebook to see if i was cheating on him, but i never had and never would. It just makes me think that he never really trusted me, and that he was looking for me to do something wrong. I have cried for days, and i begged for him back, today i realized he isn’t coming back and its time for me to move on.

Just wanted to be friends?

notoverher — Fri, 11 May 2012 14:13:05 +0000

I just got dumped by this girl and I’m really confused. Two months ago I didn’t even know her. Then out of no where she started saying hi to me whenever we passed each other in school. I took that as a sign that she liked me but I didn’t know how to start talking to her. We are different grades and have no classes together. Then over spring break she got my number and text me. At this point I was sure she liked me. We texted the whole spring break. Once we got back to school I still had a hard time finding time to talk to her in person but we did and after a couple weeks we started going. Things were great and we hung out and went on dates. Prom was coming up in a couple weeks and I didn’t want to go but her friends told me how much she wanted to go so I asked her. We had a great time at prom and I thought our relationship was great. Then two days later she told me she just wanted to be friends. I was shocked. She told me several times how much she liked me. I cried all that night. Then I got to the point that I needed to know what changed from really liking me to just wanting to be friends. So I asked her and she said she couldn’t handle a relationship right now. I’m not sure if its true but I really wanted to believe it so I did. I thought we got to the point that we were going to be friends and I would just wait it out until she is ready. Then right as we were going back to being friends she stopped texting me. I still don’t know why. That made me really angry. I saw her school the next day but I didn’t call her out because she is always around her friends. She still didn’t text me back that night so I got her friend to talk to her and she finally text back. I was so happy she text back I didn’t say the things I wanted to say and after about 20 mins she stopped texting me again. After that i thought she was angry at me so i kept texting her tyring to get her to talk to me. I was so sad at that point because i thought we would never talk again. I eventually had to ask her friend if she was mad at me. Her friend convinced me she just needed space right now so I waited for her to text back but she never did. That was hell sitting by the phone hoping she would text back. After a few days of that I talked to her friend again. I found out she thought it was too awkward to talk and her friend thought I should let it go. I have tried to let it go but I haven’t been able to. I’m still hoping that once she does want a relationship we will get back together. Its so hard having to see her everyday at school and at track. The way she acts makes it seem like the break up hasnt affected her at all. It makes me think she doesnt miss me and she never cared about me. It fells like she is going to move on with her life and i will have to feel terrible every time i see her. Every time im around her im so tense i want to punch a wall so hard i break my hand. During a track meet yesterday I was standing so close to her and yet I felt so far away. I wanted to be talking to her so badly. What confuses me even more is I swear she waved and said hi to me. I’m so confused and lonely and I don’t feel like I’m going to get over her. She was the only person I’m close to and every time I think we wont ever talk again I cry.

Never Date A Slut – They never really change

Amorousnerdium — Thu, 10 May 2012 19:51:29 +0000

Once a slut, always a slut. Never let someone fool you with the “Oh, I was a different girl then” crap. The reality is, they slip right back into their ways just like this tramp I was dating did. One minute it “I want a marriage, kids, and to settle down”, the next she’s drunk in bars three nights a week bouncing off every dick that will take her home. For that matter, it applies to us guys too. If he’s a player, he will always be one. Nothing really ever changes when it comes to people like that. Cheaters will always be cheaters. The only ones that ever get hurt are the guys (and girls) like me who actually put their heart out there on the line and gave the P.O.S. a chance.

Worst Guy EVER!!!

Sassygurl — Wed, 02 May 2012 19:06:13 +0000

While working at a department store, I met someone and at first he was the perfect guy..sweet, handsome, loving, caring, sensitive..perfect right? Yeah..totally wrong. A few months into the relationship he showed his true colors. Suddenly I wasn’t skinny enough, pretty enough, or old enough. I say this because I was only 19 at the time and he was 23. He was constantly going out to bars with his friends and getting drunk. At every social event we went too, whether it be a wedding or a birthday party, he was trashed. It doesn’t stop there…when I finally turned 21 and could go out with him to the bar, he told me that he didn’t want me to go with him, that’s fine, he wanted to spend time with his guy friends. In June, his friends and I decided we were all going going to go to a bar to celebrate his birthday. I was happy to go even though I’m not really a drinker. I showed up to his house early so I could get him there in time as I was voted the desinated driver. I knew by past experiences that he was going to be trashed and didn’t want him drinking and driving. He came out of his house and said, “we need to talk.” I was like Okay..what is the problem now, as everything was drama with him. He told me that he loved me but he didn’t want me to go with him for his birthday because I was too much of an embarrassment to him. I was furious. I had spent all this time planning with his friends for this birthday celebration and now he didn’t even want me there. WTF! I left, furious and hurt. He called me a few days later and being nieve, I forgave him. A few months later, things still had not changed and we were arguing more than ever. I had Enough of his BS and putting me down constantly. I called a quits…he didn’t want it to be over and begged me for another chance! I finally said to him,”no, I’m a better person than you, I don’t demand that you change the drunk A**hole that you are, but I do want respect for the person I am and being with you doesn’t make me happy, it never really did and it never will, leave me alone.” He called me, emailed me, drove by my house continuously for the next three months.And to make matters worse, I found out that he had asked the girl who worked with him out way before we had broken up. The reason I couldn’t go to the bars was because he was secretly seeing her behind my back the whole time, his friends knew about it, and so did she!! I was happy it was over with and I came to the realization that the only reason why I was with him was because I did’t want to be alone. He wasn’t worth my time, my love, or the garbage I just threw out.

Still going strong!

StandStrong — Wed, 02 May 2012 13:01:08 +0000

Ok so not a break-up story, but one of enduring. First year of high school i ran across this handsome fellow that was instructing a JROTC class that i was in, at first i though he was cute.. until he began to explain how he killed and ate a rabbit raw as a part of training.. uck. (It still haunts me).. but i couldn’t get him out of my mind for at least a week, despite all of the warnings of how he’s such a horrible person i decide that i liked him and just knew i would see him again one day. A little over a year later, to my suprize he found me one facebook noticing how similar our friends are and thought i looked familiar. After talking for a little bit we tracked back over a year to where we first saw eachother and talked nearly everyday. I learned that he is originally from my town but is at a military base 900 miles away and only gets a chance to come home ever so often. But after talking for two months we decided to meet once more when he came down to visit his family.. and to my surprise he used to live 2 doors down from me! So that lone stranger speeding down the road every day in an orange mustang was him, the guy i always wished i could ask for a ride? sheesh. We met and automatically acted as if we were dating, and my parents who never approved of anyone i ever dated wanted to meet the man that has held my attention. He walked in and my father smiled and greeted him warmly (which about gave me and my mother a heart attack never seeing him like that). They approved of him and that i was so happy for, but just a couple days later he had to leave.. and between phone calls everyday and 3 day visits every 2 months we are still going strong as its closing in on two years.. i still to this day cry everytime he has to leave. Now he has a coming up 6 month deployment where he won’t be allowed a phone.. but i’m still holding strong and will be waiting here with open arms when he comes home.

Camping Trip from HELL

CaliBlonde10 — Tue, 01 May 2012 19:46:35 +0000

We MOST DEFINITELY broke up right after this event.. Things were already starting to spiral down, and I should have listened to my parents when they told me to dump him. My boyfriend and I were supposed to go on a camping trip together for the weekend after a lacrosse game. The game finished, the night continued on, and we were still at the tailgate, and as usual, my boyfriend was getting drunk. He was a black-out raging alcoholic, and I was a ‘dummy’ for thinking maybe over time it would change, and he still to this day hasn’t. I finally peel him away from the booze and we make our way to the car to head on out. My first mistake now that I think back on it all is that I should have stuck to my intuition and headed back to the hall, but I didn’t. My boyfriend secretly invited his friend to be our third wheel on the trip, and he said it wouldnt be so bad, just continue with our weekend plans, so I do. We are in the car making our way camping, and my boyfriend ‘comes to’ from his drunkenness and as it starts to wear off he begins to yell and scream profanities at me about how lucky I am to have him in my life. My second mistake of the evening, again thinking that this was his drunken rampage, and it will wear off as the booze does. We get to this camp site in Maryland and we go to sleep. I wake up to find a park ranger at our campsite telling me that we are camped ‘illegally’ and there is no alcoholic beverages to be consumed in teh campsite, but there are bottles and glass everywhere (my boyfriend had woken up in teh middle of the night and continued drinking with his friend) and that we are to pay the dues/fine for the site (my boyfriend told me prior to the trip he had already paid the dues for teh weekend). My boyfriend had ‘no money’ so I had to pay. Later that evening we have a couple drinks. I dont remember consuming a lot of alcohol, but I do remember waking up the next morning on my BACK, alone in the woods, with throw up in my mouth and all inside the hood of my sweatshirt. My boyfriend, well – he was in the car nice and warm. When he finally woke up and I asked him what happened, he told me that he had gotten me wasted and that he tried to sleep with me while I was on my back, but he soon realized I was too black out drunk because I guess when I was about to throw up, he put MY hand over MY mouth and I proceeded to spray him with my vomit. He said he became really mad so he left me out in the woods on my back and figured I’d just clean myself up in the morning. I told him he could have killed me, and he shrugged his shoulders and proceeded to tell me that as usual I was over reacting. I tried to call for someone to pick me up but I had no signal. My only option at this point was to just wait until we left that evening to go on home, because I was afraid if I made him mad he would leave me in the woods and I’d have to find my own way back.

I regret having ever dated this man, if you could even call him a man. I was also very naive and stupid by staying with him through his drunken rampages. He wasn’t like that when we first started dating, but as time went on, his true colors started to show. I realize now I enabled him by putting up with it, instead of dumping him. He’s married to a woman who has no job and stays at home all day serving his needs. His final words to me after we broke up besides saying that I’d always be his girl was that I wasn’t what he needed anyway – he needed a woman that realized his friends came first and his wife/gf came second.

Today I have a wonderful boyfriend, who I live with, and who I love so very much. We treat each other equally and with respect. I only wanted to write the story to let other women know that men like this, are always like this, and its better to follow your intuition then to continue on hoping you can change someone.

HeDidWhat?

gina farish — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 13:52:57 +0000

There were symptoms that could have been cancer. I gave hubby 3 months to get good insurance coverage & time to become effective, before seeing my doctor. 3 months later we went to see her: ” Immediate surgery needed, & scheduled
Two weeks later he left me withouy a word. I show up alone for surgery @ hospital: “No surgery b/c no insurance.”
WHAT? Yep, he cancelled it.
Attorney said, “emergency medical court.”
Judge said to him: “Send $5,000 check to the hospital out of your trust fund. In Ga. husbands are responsible for wives’ medical bills.
So, CLASS IV CERVICAL CANCER surgery and radiation treatments had to be paid in cash, plus medicines. Wonder how much that cost him?
Two weeks later I received the $7.58 refund from the insurance company.
In May I celebrate my 23rd year in the Relay for Life Cancer Walk.

still regret dating him

fatima — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 21:23:51 +0000

Its been over for a long time and I have moved on. When I saw them last night, I felt a little wierd.
He and I were together 3 1/2 years. She has told me we were such good friends that she considered me a sister. And they were sleeping together while he was my boyfriend. I am sad to say that while I suspected something, I said nothing.
I cried, yelled, went to therapy and moved on.
I must admit though that when they continue to walk in front of my house, sometimes it still hurts a little (i mean really do they have to?). BTW while we were dating,he bought a house a block from mine so “we could be closer together”. We decorated it together.
Then one weekend, they ran to the courthouse and got married. I had no idea. When I confronted him he responded “yes its true-I’m seeing someone”. Seeing someone? Is that what you say about your new wife?
Anyway, long story short, I still feel a little funny when they keep insisting on walking in front of my house.

word of advice

amontgomery76 — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 17:57:49 +0000

word of advice for all the ladies who are out there…I do this to make all of you smile…
The only way to get over 1 man is to get under another!!!!
xxxx
mucho love.x